Thread Topic A1:
Lately I have been thinking about the fact that I feel like I have to "do it all" or be "everything" in my life. I'm not satisfied if I'm not being creative or working with my hands. I want to be a working woman and also take care of the house. I guess a lot of it has to do with looking so far into the future. I'm a college student and don't have a lot of time for myself or how to figure out the things that I "want" to do. I know this is the ENFP in me, but...
Is this you?
If this is, how do you deal with it?
Change your username? People will think you're ENFJ.
But seriously, generic advice is, pick a thing and do it well. AKA. practice generating completion. See something through to the end. See what it's like to generate closure. Knowing what closure looks like maybe then becomes a tool for judging the other things you're interested in too, you get to know which ones you want to see through to the end.
Give or take 20 years, this learning process will last a lifetime.
Thread Topic 1A:
BlackCat, on the basis of one or two anecdotes, I'll go along with the assertion that your mom is ENFJ. (And you're her shadow. Lucky, lucky you.)
Can I see an ENFP in a crisis over someone being late? Oh, sure. An ENFP calling someone a liar because the someone didn't keep his part of the ENFPs plan? Oh, totally. Yep. Especially if the ENFP were an ENFJ.
So, Poki's going to be on the money for how to deal with her.
Thread Sub-Topic 1Aa:
A thing I've noticed for IXXX vs EXXX is the I side often feels the E side is doing less of something the I side thinks is important. With a sample of 2 persons, particularly, INFPs needle ENFPs over depth of and commitment to values. It's not actually that ENFPs have shallow values. It's that the INFP will be invested a lot more in being their value set. Or something like that.
Also, with again a sample size of 2 persons, INFPs tend to think ENFJs are out of touch with themselves.
But I've seen an INFP help an INFJ slow down and stop being so overbearing. It made the INFJ sad, but they like sad, and she seems that much more centered now, less pressuring others. Maybe there's hope for BlackCat's mom.