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Self Esteem and Human Happiness.
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Interesting thread. Self-esteem is very important for happiness. Imagine, every time you stand in front of a mirror, all you see is a piece of shit. Every time someone criticize you, you feel a hole in your chest. Whenever you want to talk, you can’t, because you are too afraid of what people will think of you. Having a low self-esteem can lead to depression. It’s scary. Ironically, it can sometimes even look like narcissism. You stand in Front of your guard robe during half an hour asking yourself about what to wear not to look better than others, but to look well enough not to be ashamed of yourself. Sadly, when someone gives you a compliment, you don’t think it’s honest. You start to think that they say it out of pity. You can’t get persuaded by others that you are great, because you could swear before god you are not. Why?
Because every day, you are told that a piece of shit is worthier than you. It’s like conditioning. If you are every single day, you receive more insults and degradations than compliments, you start to believe them. You start to ask yourself questions. Is it true? Am I this bad? If they all say it, it must be true. You become frightened by failure. If you fail, despite all your efforts, then it has to be true. You are worthless. Sometimes, you want to be someone else. So, you start to act like them. Mimic their actions, their behavior, the words they use. And it leaves a mark. It shaped your personality, and it’s hard to change. But you feel better.
Then, you understand that you must change your behavior, and start to believe in it. You want to feel better. Thus, you choose something powerful. You act as if you were great. And you start believing it. And it feels good. You start to realize that they were all liars, that they were all hypocrites. A sense of superiority starts to grow. You feel more important than the ones, who were shooting you down. You gain trust. You start to believe in yourself. Your days become more interesting and bright. And now, when you see yourself in the mirror, you don’t look like a piece of shit anymore. Unfortunately, your personality has been shaped in a way you regret. You have become narcissistic. But not only. You also kept the personality traits of the fictional characters you were mimicking. And depending of the chosen characters, there can be consequences.
Because every day, you are told that a piece of shit is worthier than you. It’s like conditioning. If you are every single day, you receive more insults and degradations than compliments, you start to believe them. You start to ask yourself questions. Is it true? Am I this bad? If they all say it, it must be true. You become frightened by failure. If you fail, despite all your efforts, then it has to be true. You are worthless. Sometimes, you want to be someone else. So, you start to act like them. Mimic their actions, their behavior, the words they use. And it leaves a mark. It shaped your personality, and it’s hard to change. But you feel better.
Then, you understand that you must change your behavior, and start to believe in it. You want to feel better. Thus, you choose something powerful. You act as if you were great. And you start believing it. And it feels good. You start to realize that they were all liars, that they were all hypocrites. A sense of superiority starts to grow. You feel more important than the ones, who were shooting you down. You gain trust. You start to believe in yourself. Your days become more interesting and bright. And now, when you see yourself in the mirror, you don’t look like a piece of shit anymore. Unfortunately, your personality has been shaped in a way you regret. You have become narcissistic. But not only. You also kept the personality traits of the fictional characters you were mimicking. And depending of the chosen characters, there can be consequences.
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