Diet to kill sex drive?

[Lark]

Sharing some information for Warrior that might be helpful in formulating his own approach, or knowing what to look for in his own chosen spiritual path as possibility. I have no interest in converting anyone, but the resource is of Eastern Orthodox origin. It covers all of the modern psychological approaches at great length and detail, as to an individuals concerns with regard to the topic of Sex Addiction. Fr. George Morelli Ph.D. -- "Sexual Addiction" -- An Orthodox and Scientific View

Also a video on the Orthodox views of Spirituality and Addictions: it's a talk given by a female Seminary instructor with a background in psychology vs. a Fr., but there are also talks by clergy available on youtube as well.

Sometimes spiritual thinking or disciplines can help in dealing with compulsive behaviours or thinking, on the other hand I always am wary that it is a game of substitution, some of the devotees of alcholics anonymous strike me that way with the discussion of higher powers and their own formulation of their addiction as being a spiritual crisis.

I'm normally a big fan of religious thinking or disciplines, generally, I do think they can be part, properly understood, of the good life but I'm wary too when its invoked in every instance as a panacea, sometimes things need to get worked out and dealt with before its a good idea to embark on spiritual trails.

I knew plenty of people who got very involved very quickly, with little understanding but a lot of enthusiasm, to put it mildly, in religious fixations, generally involving individuals who'd taken on self-appointed leadership or pivotal roles, more than one of them when they spoke to me had pretty major neurotic guilt which they conceived as their conscience compelling them to confess sin, repent of sin etc. etc. though I never knew them to let go of that same sin and ever move beyond that state of constant self-reproach.

 

[Lark]

Yeah, I'll focus on making some hobbies. My main hobby right now is internet research on various academic or news topics. I used to write a lot of love poetry as an outlet, and also write in a diary, read books late at night, and I also was told by my algebra tutor id make a great actuary, (ironic, lol), it's just that i either get overconfident or underconfident with math, i guess i hesitated to study math due to my grades, thinking id never be able to major in it. but i think ill either study actuarial science (I got 97th percentile on math btw, i am good at math, it's not just something she said to cheer me up), math, or just study math in my free time or both. i also enjoyed various informative channels on youtube such as islamic channels (though that turned sour with my fierce anger against the turkish regime and the islamist dominated islamic channels defending him or overlooking him and promoting chaos in syria and hatred for jews, at times...), or alternatehistoryhub, or nameexplain, a geography channel i can't remember, etc. but i dont remember why all that went away....i suppose i could go back to that..... thanks, man or gal, i dont know what you are, all i see is an image of a ninja. LOL

I think you're on the right track with this.

I'm a ninja, aye.

 

[Warrior]

When you put it that way it doesnt sound too substantial, I dont just mean hobbies in a simple case but something to occupy yourself, a job could be one thing, I'm not sure what age you are and if that's an option but something to occupy your time more generally is what I mean.

If you're choosing to see a therapist hopefully it will work out, do you expect therapy will confirm your issues relate to those things and the wish for connectedness? What if it does? What if it doesnt? How do you see things progressing from there?

Good luck, I think you know yourself what's a good idea and what isnt.

im 18 btw

 

[Lark]

im 18 btw

So you should be able to get a job then, that'd mean you'd have less time to focus on stuff which isnt making for anything other than grief and troubles. Try that. The money can help too, try and save a good bit of it too.

 

[Wunjo]

Respectfully Glados, that appears to be quite a nihilistic viewpoint on the surface. However, I completely agree that I alone could not topple nature, nor could the alleged collective knowledge of man. Might I suggest that embracing aspects of life with regard to self is also a highly problematic approach, sounds good on the surface, but is equally illusive in failing to address the underlying issues that remain. Transgender studies post the auspice of surgery is a poignant example, being the core concerns that existed prior the embrace, more often than not remain.

"With all due respect", I am quite nihilistic.

Agreed on TG studies.

 

[Wanonymous]

I want a diet to kill my sex drive. I went for a psychosexual evaluation recently and they suggested that if therapy doesn't work, I should get hormonal therapy using pills. I also want this diet for religious, Islamic reasons, as I have trouble "lowering my gaze", (not looking with lust or infatuation), not masturbating, not looking at porn, staring at girls to the point it makes them uncomfortable, stalking girls, etc. I heard red meat is a booster of sex drive. What other foods can I cut to lower my libido? please make a list. thanks, warrior

Hello,
I'm a muslim too, and it's good that you want to get rid of these thoughts. I personally find eating less junk food and candy sometimes help. Not overeating and eating a little bit at a time is Sunnah and was, according to my memory, supposed to help. Try googling "overeating hadiths." A steady bed time routine and avoiding sleep deprivation should help too. I don't think it's allowed to take medication / hormones to lower your sex drive in islam, so I'd definitely stay away from those. Maybe forums could help to keep you motivated? And of course, Quran & dua is necessary. No matter how many times you fail, you must keep going. May Allah find a way out of this for you and keep you on the straight path.