gromit
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Do you feel you are able to look at yourself/your life at least somewhat objectively? Are you honest with yourself? Or is it more something you struggle with (or don't really think about)?
As I've gotten older I've definitely come to see the importance of self-honesty. It seems it is easy to err to one side or the other, viewing yourself as either not needing to change, perfect exactly how you are, or viewing yourself as always at fault or almost helpless in a given situation.
And I can sort of see why we do it. These self-perceptions are familiar and safe... thought patterns that reinforce a current position. And maybe it's easier to see ourselves as a victim or as a really happy person or as someone who isn't good at x/y/z or whatever...
But I guess you get to a point where that is no longer working out and you are almost forced to really be painfully honest with yourself, that you wish things were maybe different. Starting with this better, more accurate picture of yourself and how things currently are, allows you to actually move to where you'd rather be. I also think though, maybe as you get better and better at it, then you don't have to get to that painfully honest point. Just sort of assess as you go along.
Anyway, just some random thoughts. Do you make any special efforts to try to incorporate more objectivity? If so, what?
As I've gotten older I've definitely come to see the importance of self-honesty. It seems it is easy to err to one side or the other, viewing yourself as either not needing to change, perfect exactly how you are, or viewing yourself as always at fault or almost helpless in a given situation.
And I can sort of see why we do it. These self-perceptions are familiar and safe... thought patterns that reinforce a current position. And maybe it's easier to see ourselves as a victim or as a really happy person or as someone who isn't good at x/y/z or whatever...
But I guess you get to a point where that is no longer working out and you are almost forced to really be painfully honest with yourself, that you wish things were maybe different. Starting with this better, more accurate picture of yourself and how things currently are, allows you to actually move to where you'd rather be. I also think though, maybe as you get better and better at it, then you don't have to get to that painfully honest point. Just sort of assess as you go along.
Anyway, just some random thoughts. Do you make any special efforts to try to incorporate more objectivity? If so, what?