Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
You can look at it is being kind to yourself, or even compassionate and forgiving. I see it as taking a productive approach. If you are indulging in self-critique that is not constructive, or not evaluating honestly as Uumlau describes, or holding yourself to expectations that are unrealistic - all of this is unproductive, and will get you no closer to your goals.

To the extent that I agree with unconditional self-acceptance, it is acceptance of one's past, which cannot be changed; and one's potential for improving what can be changed in the future. These intersect in the present, where you have to play your best hand with the cards you are dealt.
That is my understanding.