In the last 2 years I feel like I have fallen on my face repeatedly jobwise and relationshipwise (mainly friendships), my intuition tells me about all these amazing possibilities but then reality comes to hit me in the face. (It reminds me of this Calvin and Hobbes strip where Calvin says: "Reality continues to ruin my life.")
So at the moment I might still see all these possibilities but I try to ignore them and keep my expectations low in order to avoid another disappointment. Any idea what to do about that, how to use one's intuition in a healthy way?
When this happens, I tell myself that even though I may perceive things a certain way, it doesn't mean that others will perceive things the same way as I do.
In other words, things that happen in our lives are interdependent. I may feel a certain way, but the causal outcome depends on the other parties involved as well- like a whole group-dynamic effort.
I then vest my energies back towards my own internal locus of control- since really, even when life can get chaotic on the outside, if we're clear with things on the inside, then even disappointments may phase us, but not quite as much. <--- Re-framing from different perspectives, refocusing on things that I can take control of my life
- my thoughts, feelings, actions.
I love this quote, not sure if I read it somewhere or made it up based on what I read: "Pure heart. Pure mind. Sound spirit." It's a way of taking back the power in our lives. If others have the intent to harm us or if situations don't turn out the way we like, if we're clear on who we are, our intent/priorities, then nothing will hurt us to the extent of extremes. Like a protective shield- it deflects/re-balances. I find that when people are malicious and seek out to hurt others, they're really hurting themselves. They self-destruct, as well as the environment that's toxic. By reminding myself of this quote, I feel reassured. It reminds me of re-prioritizing what I want in my life- happiness/content.
Really? In the end? For me- it's all about sleeping well at night!
(I like to keep the cortisol levels down). *blush*
May sound a little naiive, but it's true. That's how I deal with it. Hope this helps!