I don't need protection or welcome orders. A little protection/tradeoff on strengths in each person is great, but I don't fancy myself as someone who needs all of it. And orders are pretty much the wrong way to talk to me.
I can agree with this. While its unusual for an ENFJ to "order", they will sometimes make "helpful suggestions", and on occasion this may rub me the wrong way, as I have my own ideas. Other times, it is helpful & I don't mind taking it; I know there is good motive.
As for being protected, I do like having someone look out for me in a way, but I don't need someone to take care of me. It can be a misconception that INFPs need certain things but can't do it themselves, when in reality, we don't bother with it because
that's just how we like it. I have not had an ENFJ cross that boundary, and I don't think it's necessarily a trait of theirs as a whole though. Online I have heard of the pushy NFJ type, who may need to stop & realize they are really serving their own need for their partner to be a certain way, as opposed to helping their partner for their partner's sake. That's my impression of that obstacle anyway, but like I said, I haven't had that problem with any ENFJ I actually know.
Generally, what I appreciate about ENFJs is they like me as I am, and I also like them as they are, and there's a lot less "I wish they were more X way". The few snags are always consistent & become predictable over time, and they are rather minor in comparison to snags hit with other types.