Like hilo, I am not sure how I come across to others, and I can relate to a lot of what she said.
I have always balked against social or job-related hierarchies, like being expected to kiss someone's butt because they were "over" me, and I have always resented being hired to do a job, and then having to pick up someone's dry cleaning or address their daughter's bat mitzvah invitations, or whatever.
I spend most of my free time just thinking about stuff or reading non-fiction, trying to learn everything I can about a variety of subjects. I don't remember it all, but I remember the gist of it, and where to find it when I need to come back to it.
I don't seek attention except for this fraction of my personality that likes performing. I've always acted and played music, and I do like being in front of a crowd--however, I don't really have the "ham" gene. I would make a terrible reality show contestant, because I have no idea how to ham it up and create drama. I hate drama and will go to great lengths to avoid it and the people who cause it.
I hate fake, catty or manipulative people, and rather than engage them or try to put them in their places, I just don't acknowledge them at all. Sometimes this gets me branded as a snob.
I tend not to engage people I don't have a lot in common with. Small talk is exhausting and unfulfilling. This also gets me branded as a snob.
Over the years, I learned to smile more and make more small talk to get people off my back. This still comes back to bite me in the butt because people fail to realize I'm an introvert and get offended when I don't want to hang out after work or talk about the Real Housewives of Whatever for hours or friend them on Facebook.
I'm pretty feminine in dress and style, and I like to wear cute clothes and play around with hair and makeup when I'm in the mood. But mostly, I just buy a handful of clothes that look good on me and wear the heck out of those. I don't have the patience to put together a whole new outfit everyday, figure out what shoes and accessories to wear, etc. I'm more like the whole Jackie O/Katharine Hepburn thing of "find what looks great on you and wear it all the time." However, being feminine in dress leads me to attract guys who think I'm going to be more girly, and I don't respond to the typical plays guys make for girly-girls, and being complimented on my looks, while flattering, isn't the key to my heart.
I don't date a lot because being my myself is much more pleasant than being with someone I don't click with and have to entertain. This leads people to assume that either there is something wrong with me or that I'm gay. Neither is the case, but I don't really care what people assume. I have to have someone that I have major sparks and a connection with, or it's almost impossible for me to come out of my own head to engage. This is a rare event--has only happened a few times. Dating is just a hassle unless there's a big motivator.
My F friends seem to find me a calming presence.