ajblaise
Minister of Propagandhi
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You're thinking of ENTJs
ENTJs are just more open about it.
You're thinking of ENTJs
What about his painting miniatures?
His love of WWII (Nazis in particular)?
His aversion to talking about the future?
His aversion to tastes and experiences that don't line up with the past?
Also, what about the whole INTJ quest for improvement? He has told me numerous times that he is perfectly content with his life just the way it is.
Hmmm, are you aware of any problems his parents may have had? He sounds to me like an unbalanced INTJ with intimacy issues (yikes).
Agreed. And because he's such a strong J, his supposed lack of self-confidence would make him stay tight-lipped even more religiously.
About his parents -
His dad is an extrovert, ex-drill sargeant, ex-representative for Warner Elektra Atlantic with major emotional issues. He's incredibly stubborn and acts like a baby (I'm really serious! Stomping around, red-faced and all!) if anyone says anything against his beliefs. For example, he's a Vietnam vet, Republican, and if you say anything bad about Bush, he'll start singing the Marine Corps song over you. Very passive aggressive. Very generous to a fault.
His mom is an introvert, nurse, who got deep into drugs and left my husband and his father one day for another man (when my husband was 13) and didn't return for several years. She's now very stable. She's very educated, an avid reader, and pleasant.
This explains so much. What a mess...
I don't think it was a lack of self-confidence. He just couldn't handle it for some reason. I'd get excited imagining the thought of a little baby crawling around the living room floor, and say to him playfully, "let's make a baby", and he'd get so pissed off (I mean really, really pissed off) with me for bringing it up. He'd point out all the reasons why we couldn't have a baby at the time. And maybe he was right, but God, he could have just indulged me a bit.
I'd talk about traveling and where I'd like to go, and he'd criticize every country I'd pick. He only wanted to go to Europe. There were terrorists, diseases, insects, etc. in all the other countries.
About his parents -
His dad is an extrovert, ex-drill sargeant, ex-representative for Warner Elektra Atlantic with major emotional issues. He's incredibly stubborn and acts like a baby (I'm really serious! Stomping around, red-faced and all!) if anyone says anything against his beliefs. For example, he's a Vietnam vet, Republican, and if you say anything bad about Bush, he'll start singing the Marine Corps song over you. Very passive aggressive. Very generous to a fault.
His mom is an introvert, nurse, who got deep into drugs and left my husband and his father one day for another man (when my husband was 13) and didn't return for several years. She's now very stable. She's very educated, an avid reader, and pleasant.
Amen.
When I met my friend he was in a pretty bad state due to his family situation. Excessively anti-social, mad at the world to the point where he was blowing up in school every week. After ten years he's become a lot better, but I still wake him up by throwing a ball at him then quickly shutting the door. The last friend who didn't do that was met with a knive to the throat and a head lock - no blood happened. He speaks a lot better these days though and, when awake, doesn't have the urge to kill every second person he walks by.
Good guy, avid gamer, loves to put time into the perfect attack and then over does it for laughs. Good with his hands and someone I like watching my back, when he's awake; if I had to choose between a well trained guard dog and him, I'd pick him ever time. I miss hanging out with him and the rest of those crazies, but I don't miss the world domination plans we had in junior high.
If so, then I can easily see why he would get mad at you for being fanciful in the slightest. It would create a sort of knee-jerk reaction that is programmed to PUMMEL any sort of illogical thought/whim. Very similar, if not identical to PTSD. Have you tried to get him into therapy?
Edit in: I'm truly sorry this all happend the way it did. I know he's a good guy under there...he's just too damaged to be the real him right now =(.
I'd just like to clarify that my ex isn't antisocial in the clinical definition. He just isn't sociable.
He also is not physically violent.
Hmm.. maybe an INTJ with an unhealthy shadow, or maybe OCD.
Does he get stressed if someone touches his stuff or changes his routine. Not just a bit annoyed.. but distressed? It sounds very OCD.
I don't think it was a lack of self-confidence. He just couldn't handle it for some reason. I'd get excited imagining the thought of a little baby crawling around the living room floor, and say to him playfully, "let's make a baby", and he'd get so pissed off (I mean really, really pissed off) with me for bringing it up. He'd point out all the reasons why we couldn't have a baby at the time. And maybe he was right, but God, he could have just indulged me a bit.
I'd talk about traveling and where I'd like to go, and he'd criticize every country I'd pick. He only wanted to go to Europe. There were terrorists, diseases, insects, etc. in all the other countries.
About his parents -
His dad is an extrovert, ex-drill sargeant, ex-representative for Warner Elektra Atlantic with major emotional issues. He's incredibly stubborn and acts like a baby (I'm really serious! Stomping around, red-faced and all!) if anyone says anything against his beliefs. For example, he's a Vietnam vet, Republican, and if you say anything bad about Bush, he'll start singing the Marine Corps song over you. Very passive aggressive. Very generous to a fault.
His mom is an introvert, nurse, who got deep into drugs and left my husband and his father one day for another man (when my husband was 13) and didn't return for several years. She's now very stable. She's very educated, an avid reader, and pleasant.
it would explain why he doesnt want to face a future or change (baby, travel to where you want to go).
You need an ENTP to rinse away his memory.
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