pinkgraffiti
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So...I'm wondering about my type. I've always thought I was a type 7, but today I was reflecting on a couple of things and wondered whether I might be a 6 instead.
So, I'm pretty sure I am a reactive type, so I'm either a 7w8 or a counterphobic 6(w7).
Why I think I'm a 7:
- I highly value freedom and have in fact led my life in that sense.
- I also value equality in all my relationships, I don't want to boss people around but I don't want to be bossed either.
- I need variety and to try different things. I am hedonistic in the way that I do things, all things, for pleasure, I need to get pleasure out of everything I am doing. As a child I'd always follow the rule: first play, then work. I still do.
- I am super curious about the world. And people. I love talking to strangers. As a child I loved looking at people on public transportation and imagining being each one of them and how my life would be and how I'd feel.
- This is why I have since living in various countries. And learned many languages. And changed multiple jobs. My favorite character in history is Leonardo da Vinci, I love the idea of knowing a bit of everything, I don't particularly want to specialize. My goal is to experience as much as the world as possible, I want to form a big picture in my mind of what the world is and all the experiences I can get from it.
Why I think I might be a 6:
- I am dependent on other people to validate my emotions. That means, I know I have emotions, but I constantly need to talk to friend or SO to be sure that I have the right to feel how I am feeling and am not overstepping or being selfish or inconsiderate. This could be related to low Fi and to having been raised by a narcissist Fe-dominant mother who taught me that having my own emotions was equal to being selfish, and that I should accommodate hers. It made her very insecure about the way I experience things.
- Similarly, I'm also insecure about making decisions. I always second guess things and again always have to ask people I trust about their opinions on my choices.
- I really need stability and to feel at "home". This is the biggest problem for me I think. I guess this is another consequence of having been raised by a narcissist mother and abusive father, for me the concept of "home" is really shaky, I always feel "temporary" or have anxiety and need to feel safe and protected. And reassured by loved ones (SO or friends). This is of course not doable and something I am trying to work on.
7w8 vs. counter phobic 6:
- I have anger reactions sometimes. I don't know if they're related to an 8 wing or a counterphobic 6. I feel anger when I am disrespected, or when people invade my personal space. Or when I trust someone and "let them in" and then they betray my trust and stumble on my feelings. That anger manifests by me enumerating in a very Te-way why the person made me angry and why their behavior is unfair. Of course, I do this in an angry tone LOL And this lasts 2 minutes maximum. After that I feel great and totally forget what the problem was.
- With bosses and authority figures, where I am not able to express my anger, it comes off as anxiety. I have anxiety connected to movement. That means, when I feel anxious, I have to keep moving, be it walking or driving. I just can't stand still.
That's it. Comments please? I feel a bit naked now
So...I'm wondering about my type. I've always thought I was a type 7, but today I was reflecting on a couple of things and wondered whether I might be a 6 instead.
So, I'm pretty sure I am a reactive type, so I'm either a 7w8 or a counterphobic 6(w7).
Why I think I'm a 7:
- I highly value freedom and have in fact led my life in that sense.
- I also value equality in all my relationships, I don't want to boss people around but I don't want to be bossed either.
- I need variety and to try different things. I am hedonistic in the way that I do things, all things, for pleasure, I need to get pleasure out of everything I am doing. As a child I'd always follow the rule: first play, then work. I still do.
- I am super curious about the world. And people. I love talking to strangers. As a child I loved looking at people on public transportation and imagining being each one of them and how my life would be and how I'd feel.
- This is why I have since living in various countries. And learned many languages. And changed multiple jobs. My favorite character in history is Leonardo da Vinci, I love the idea of knowing a bit of everything, I don't particularly want to specialize. My goal is to experience as much as the world as possible, I want to form a big picture in my mind of what the world is and all the experiences I can get from it.
Why I think I might be a 6:
- I am dependent on other people to validate my emotions. That means, I know I have emotions, but I constantly need to talk to friend or SO to be sure that I have the right to feel how I am feeling and am not overstepping or being selfish or inconsiderate. This could be related to low Fi and to having been raised by a narcissist Fe-dominant mother who taught me that having my own emotions was equal to being selfish, and that I should accommodate hers. It made her very insecure about the way I experience things.
- Similarly, I'm also insecure about making decisions. I always second guess things and again always have to ask people I trust about their opinions on my choices.
- I really need stability and to feel at "home". This is the biggest problem for me I think. I guess this is another consequence of having been raised by a narcissist mother and abusive father, for me the concept of "home" is really shaky, I always feel "temporary" or have anxiety and need to feel safe and protected. And reassured by loved ones (SO or friends). This is of course not doable and something I am trying to work on.
7w8 vs. counter phobic 6:
- I have anger reactions sometimes. I don't know if they're related to an 8 wing or a counterphobic 6. I feel anger when I am disrespected, or when people invade my personal space. Or when I trust someone and "let them in" and then they betray my trust and stumble on my feelings. That anger manifests by me enumerating in a very Te-way why the person made me angry and why their behavior is unfair. Of course, I do this in an angry tone LOL And this lasts 2 minutes maximum. After that I feel great and totally forget what the problem was.
- With bosses and authority figures, where I am not able to express my anger, it comes off as anxiety. I have anxiety connected to movement. That means, when I feel anxious, I have to keep moving, be it walking or driving. I just can't stand still.
That's it. Comments please? I feel a bit naked now
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