Queen Kat
The Duchess of Oddity
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I know a couple of people who love someone without telling the person they love them and today I noticed that they are all NFs. Let me tell you about two of them, maybe the most extreme ones.
One of those NFs is an INFP, and she never tells anyone that she loves them. She's 18 now. The first time she fell in love with someone, she was 12 and she decided not to tell him. I have no idea why. That one sided love affair ended when she was 16 or 17. Then she fell in love with another guy, who really liked her, but she didn't tell him either. She's still in love with him and she doesn't want to start dating with him, because she thinks she'd only use him as some kind of what she calls "staring material".
The other one is an ENFJ or an ENFP (can't quite figure ou which one, she's too irresponsible and unstable to be an ENFJ and too fun sucking and conforming to be an ENFP) and she was in love with a guy for two years without telling him. Everyone knew, but she still didn't tell him, until she got drunk at a party and started crying and telling about how much she loved him. They started dating, got a relationship and after a few weeks she already broke up with him. She started whining about it to everyone for about seven months, until I told her what a crazy retard she had become. Then she started dating a lot of guys at once, she had a lot of "boyfriends" whom she dumped after a few days, because she couldn't help comparing her new boyfriends with the guy she was in love with first.
Is this some special NF-thing? I haven't noticed any SJ's, SP's or NT's with these kinds of "love affairs". Do you guys notice the same thing?
One of those NFs is an INFP, and she never tells anyone that she loves them. She's 18 now. The first time she fell in love with someone, she was 12 and she decided not to tell him. I have no idea why. That one sided love affair ended when she was 16 or 17. Then she fell in love with another guy, who really liked her, but she didn't tell him either. She's still in love with him and she doesn't want to start dating with him, because she thinks she'd only use him as some kind of what she calls "staring material".
The other one is an ENFJ or an ENFP (can't quite figure ou which one, she's too irresponsible and unstable to be an ENFJ and too fun sucking and conforming to be an ENFP) and she was in love with a guy for two years without telling him. Everyone knew, but she still didn't tell him, until she got drunk at a party and started crying and telling about how much she loved him. They started dating, got a relationship and after a few weeks she already broke up with him. She started whining about it to everyone for about seven months, until I told her what a crazy retard she had become. Then she started dating a lot of guys at once, she had a lot of "boyfriends" whom she dumped after a few days, because she couldn't help comparing her new boyfriends with the guy she was in love with first.
Is this some special NF-thing? I haven't noticed any SJ's, SP's or NT's with these kinds of "love affairs". Do you guys notice the same thing?