Megatron
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- Feb 6, 2017
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- MBTI Type
- INTJ
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- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
Is it normal for an INTJ to pick a fight and want the other person to argue back?
Particularly in a romantic relationship.
I have a bad habit of wanting to do this when my significant other is acting weak minded, too passive or lacking a backbone.
I want them to stand up to me because it bothers me that they'll just stand there and take it. I want someone who will defend themselves. Not just to me, but to things in life in general.
I only do this when I've been with that person a long time and also when I feel like I'm losing them- like them fighting back means they still care? And to be completely honest, it is also becuase the idea of a semi heated arguement like that could lead to make-up angry sex.. that sounds like a good time to me..
By the way, I'm fully aware this is not exactly a nice thing to do to someone. That's why I want to talk about it, to see if this is a habit that is common among INTJs or if I'm just a desperate asshole lol. Or if you think this habit is nothing like an INTJ (I still question my type from time to time)
Particularly in a romantic relationship.
I have a bad habit of wanting to do this when my significant other is acting weak minded, too passive or lacking a backbone.
I want them to stand up to me because it bothers me that they'll just stand there and take it. I want someone who will defend themselves. Not just to me, but to things in life in general.
I only do this when I've been with that person a long time and also when I feel like I'm losing them- like them fighting back means they still care? And to be completely honest, it is also becuase the idea of a semi heated arguement like that could lead to make-up angry sex.. that sounds like a good time to me..
By the way, I'm fully aware this is not exactly a nice thing to do to someone. That's why I want to talk about it, to see if this is a habit that is common among INTJs or if I'm just a desperate asshole lol. Or if you think this habit is nothing like an INTJ (I still question my type from time to time)