"Loving
For INFJs, 'still waters run deep.' They tend to become attracted to someone special and prefer this one deep relationship over many superficial ones. The depth of involvement and feeling that the INFJ has toward loved ones is only partially communicated outward. At times, when alone, INFJs become truly in touch with the depth of the love they have for their partner. They may not openly demonstrate or even verbalize their intense feelings. INFJs often have an ideal standard of what love is. They hold to their ideal and are disappointed when, inevitably, their relationship and/or mate reveals flaws. INFJs enjoy sharing activities like a regular 'date,' revisiting the place where they first met their mates, or doing other symbolic things that help to continue and confirm the existence of the bond that they feel for their partner.
INFJs want to give love and to be loved. They enter into relationships just to be cared for, even when the person is not right for them and they suspect it. However, when they meet that special person, they are quick to get into the relationship and make it a serious one. They will end their other relationships in order to pursue their loved one. They become very focused, intense, and direct in that pursuit.
INFJs, when scorned, take it personally and retreat inward. They may obsess about the relationship and their role in its failure. One INFJ explained, 'people can do the most outrageous things, yet I blame myself for triggering their behaviour or not recognizing it. I see myself as responsible for relationships. Other people can dismiss them --- I'm not able to.' INFJs may blame themselves and experience a period of mourning. If they do not marshall their resources, externalized their feelings, and take risks to move on, they may experience a long periods of self-examination."
Oh my freaking gosh this is freakily right on target with me,lol. There was so much that fit me to a T that I had to put in bold that which did not fit me,lol.
I am the type of person who can be alone but not be lonely - so I don't have to be with someone just be with someone- if that makes sense. To be with someone just to be cared for while knowing it is isn't right would be just a waste of time for both parties in my opinion. I am very verbal and poor my heart out about my feelings- I say it- write it- sing it-profess to the whole world- you name it.
Every single thing not in bold is exactly me- I mean everything. I cannot even begin to comment the way I want to because there is so much that I feel overwhelmed to even try. Thank you sanveane for posting this description.