I was thinking along similar lines. In general, my approach would be to start by treating the injury/problem to prevent further damage and correct damage done. Then identifying the cause and taking steps to prevent recurrence. What exactly these steps entail depends on the factors you mentioned.i think the nature of the injury, how/why it was inflicted, the nature of the relationship (if any) that exists, percieved consequences of action or inaction, and likely a dozen or so other things ought to be considered...
i think the nature of the injury, how/why it was inflicted, the nature of the relationship (if any) that exists, percieved consequences of action or inaction, and likely a dozen or so other things ought to be considered...
show us on the doll where they hurt you... okay, that wasn't that funny... seriously though, are you doing okay?
An apology to me is just words. Worthless unless backed up by taking responsibility, understanding why they did what they did and how to prevent it in future, and doing what they can to make things right. If they do all of that, the apology itself is unnecessary. If they don't, it is meaningless.Intent matters greatly to me.
If you harm me, physically or emotionally, unintentionally, despite hurting, I find it very easy to forgive and move on so long as they acknowledge it and apologize -- it's done, over with, and we're going to continue on as we were with no passive resentment.
An apology to me is just words. Worthless unless backed up by taking responsibility, understanding why they did what they did and how to prevent it in future, and doing what they can to make things right. If they do all of that, the apology itself is unnecessary. If they don't, it is meaningless.