Salomé
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- Joined
- Sep 25, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- INTP
- Enneagram
- 5w4
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
I think you're right - it is much more common for extroverts to behave this way than introverts. INTPs seldom are perceived or perceive themselves at their true level of competence. They are constantly second-guessing themselves. They lack the arrogance and grandiosity of say, ENTPs, in this respect.a conceited person with an overinflated sense of their intellect (as an immature INTP is very prone to being) will TELL himself that he's looking for an equal, a mind mate, whilst in reality he doesn't actually really think anyone's worthy of his mind, even passing up people ten times smarter than him without realizing it. And then actually going for someone who really just boosts his ego by making him feel smart, telling himself that they're a mind mate, when it's really clear to onlookers that it's an unequal partnership and one partner, typically the girl, is constantly deferring to the guy's knowledge and "letting" him be right all the time. This is my main point though, how what we think we're going for and what we think are our reasons and what we're doing, and what we actually are, aren't always the same thing.
I think sometimes extraverts are seen as being more prone to this, with introverts being more introspective and therefore more aware of what their subconscious is up to and less prey to it. However, I could equally propose that this might cause a sense of arrogance and complacency about it in the introvert that actually makes them MORE prone to it, cos they're not on guard for it, assuming themselves in control of it, whilst the extravert who knows it's a tendency cos other people tell him all the time, might be more likely to admit it and to be aware when it's happening.
QFT. Many of them are full of self-doubt, even self-hate.Yes, but in the process of pillorying INTPs for the alleged failures of that one or those few, you implied (in the sort of haughty manner would-be counselors are prone to do), that seeking a mindmate is necessarily something one-sided and something for the immature, while something else would be better for them, if only they weren't so convinced of their superiority on this. It is my experience (and others', including norepinephrine) that people often attribute higher arrogance for this to INTs than they in fact have, and then go on to hate them for this concluded cockiness. Further, that people should interpret that preference as really seeking someone to fawn over them seems, well, an oddly colored view.
Noone understands us!
WTF any of this has to do with seduction, IDK....
happy puppy: if he's male and INTP and as socially inept as you say, just be obvious and available, and do ALL the work. And don't expect to have a very good time.
Like I said, ENFPs are weird.