Fluffywolf
Nips away your dignity
- Joined
- Mar 31, 2009
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- INTP
- Enneagram
- 9
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
I'm the INTP you want to go grocery shopping with, silly!
... there are different flavors of INTP. I'm far more P and seem to favor my Ne when I interact with the world rather than applying more rigid Ti-style approach on the world.
What happens is that I see that something has to happen (such as splitting up with my SO), it's all very clear to me and makes the most sense, it's not even an issue in terms of what makes sense.... but I just feel very uncomfortable applying that decision because it reduces my options and commits me to a new path. I've always had issues making a decision to change things when it involves closing doors.
It's all about how you look at the relationship in whole. Either objectively or subjectively.
Do you look at it 'from above'? Then your descision will probably be easy. You have an idea of what a relationship should be, and all you need to know is wether or not it applies. If it doesn't suffice, then a break up is inevitable.
Do you look at it 'from your own point of view in terms of environment/habitat/future/integrity, etc.' Then comparing all the aspects in a before/after fashion may result in some negative outcomes. A break up might be prefered on some points, but the chances of losing out in other aspects could not be worth the descision.
I do the first and deal with the conscequences as they come. You seem to favor the second. Neither can be said to be the best course of action as it is situational. Though it is true that my way might be more risky, double or nothing kind of bet. While yours is a more balanced win some or lose some bet.
Obviously, I am extremely Ti-rigid. I have had a moment in my life where I forced myself to rebuild my entire way of thinking, because I was unable to deal with some situations. I have moved my perspective.