Such Irony
Honor Thy Inferior
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Does that sound pathetic or what? To not be confident about your own confidence level?
So I got turned down for yet another job. When I asked for feedback on what I could do better, one of the things mentioned was that I need to appear more confident. Well it's pretty hard to be confident when you keep getting rejected! I think my job search goals are pretty realistic. I won't apply for any positions that I don't meet the qualifications for. Some are a little bit of a stretch but I know I could handle it. I would take extra courses or study to get up to speed. So that does suggest some confidence yet I'm told I don't appear confident.
For one thing, I come across better on paper than in person. I can write a mean resume and job application. Yet in person, I hesitate and say ummm alot. Maybe its because I'm an introvert and I naturally gravitate more towards written communication.
I'm also honest about my abilities and modest. I won't claim to be able to do things that are beyond my skill level. I will instead admit that I don't have a whole lot of experience in that area but am willing to practice more to get up to speed and I will give it my best shot. Besides, how can anyone be totally sure they will succeed? People mistake my honesty for low confidence whereas I see it as a healthy dose of realism mixed in with enough introspection to know what my strengths and weaknesses are.
I am willing to take on new challenges and do things that are a bit of a stretch but I also like to warn people that I'm taking on something that's new to me so they don't have unreasonable expectations. Besides I don't want to promise something I can't deliver.
So how can I appear more confident while still being honest about myself?
I've asked the interviewer and she said things like self-talk and to visualize a positive outcome which I already do regularly.
Anyone else relate to this? Anyone got some good tips?
So I got turned down for yet another job. When I asked for feedback on what I could do better, one of the things mentioned was that I need to appear more confident. Well it's pretty hard to be confident when you keep getting rejected! I think my job search goals are pretty realistic. I won't apply for any positions that I don't meet the qualifications for. Some are a little bit of a stretch but I know I could handle it. I would take extra courses or study to get up to speed. So that does suggest some confidence yet I'm told I don't appear confident.
For one thing, I come across better on paper than in person. I can write a mean resume and job application. Yet in person, I hesitate and say ummm alot. Maybe its because I'm an introvert and I naturally gravitate more towards written communication.
I'm also honest about my abilities and modest. I won't claim to be able to do things that are beyond my skill level. I will instead admit that I don't have a whole lot of experience in that area but am willing to practice more to get up to speed and I will give it my best shot. Besides, how can anyone be totally sure they will succeed? People mistake my honesty for low confidence whereas I see it as a healthy dose of realism mixed in with enough introspection to know what my strengths and weaknesses are.
I am willing to take on new challenges and do things that are a bit of a stretch but I also like to warn people that I'm taking on something that's new to me so they don't have unreasonable expectations. Besides I don't want to promise something I can't deliver.
So how can I appear more confident while still being honest about myself?
I've asked the interviewer and she said things like self-talk and to visualize a positive outcome which I already do regularly.
Anyone else relate to this? Anyone got some good tips?