When I feel exhausted, I get stressed. I mean exhausted emotionally. I try to always find solutions. I love problem solving. But when people complain at work or at home and all my efforts fall on deaf ears, and I just find myself repeating myself over and over, it exhausts me.
I've come to the conclusion that most people love to whine and complain and no one really wants to solve their problems, they just like the attention that drama causes. So hearing the same stories repeated over and over for dramatic effect drains me, and stresses me out. Don't ask me for advice if you have no intention of following it. I put a lot of thought in resolving things, I care about the problems my friends are going through. When I find out that your problems are just for show and you could care less about fixing them, but you continue to complain constantly - arrrgh. Drives me crazy.
Also, someone needing me too much. I have a friend that I spoke to every day for a week when she was going through a crisis, now she expects an every day phone call. If I turn off my phone, I wake up in the morning with at least 5 texts from her wondering where I am, as if she owns me. If I have to go, she'll start an argument with me to keep me on the phone longer. This controlling behavior stresses me out beyond belief and makes me hate her ENFP needy ass. And I don't enjoy feeling strong emotions, I resent her for making me feel them.
When I'm yelling or arguing, I'm still involved and there's still a chance to work it out. When I turn silent, you better believe the conversation is over. I withdraw. I stop answering my phone and I don't go out. I don't want to talk to anybody. I turn to physical activities like sex or anything that turns my brain off for a while. I watch a lot of films. After about a week of clearing my head, I come back, colder and harder than before and tell everyone exactly what I will and will not put up with. Then I quickly get back to my friendly happy-go-lucky problem solving like none of it ever happened.