Behavior ultimately comes down to who you see yourself as. If you see yourself as a good person, capable of respect and capable of being respected, you will hearken to reproach. You will listen all those times when people tell you you are fucking up and you will change in your heart at that instant you become aware. This is why it is important to try to show people the way. Because many times they do not make the connection between their behaviors and others, necessarily. They are not aware of how they affect others or they are in denial and need to be confronted. However, some people never learn and others still do not love themselves enough to want to do better. All morality stems ultimately from positive ego, integrity.
As it happens, I was reading Proverbs last night and Solomon speaks repeatedly about correction and wisdom.
Proverbs 17:10 A rebuke enters deeper into one who has understanding
Than a hundred lashes into a fool.
But Syn, I dont think you can help show an entp, more so than any other type, anything or change them unless they choose to do so. They just respond by throwing it back at you or building walls, or attacking. You cannot reach inside of an entp and build something that is not there. They find that hideously offensive.
I, more than anyone else at my company have called this man to task so many times for his behavior. I have had multiple curse filled conversations where I discuss his flaws, how he treats others, why he thinks it is okay to cheat on his girlfriend, why his behavior is not reasonable for our team, and why you cannot hit on women you work with, and so on. It helps-he has gotten somewhat better in his relations with others. Slow progress and endless cleanup..
I could endlessly, easily manipulate this man. I understand him and his weaknesses and it would be simple. However that is cruel. When do you give up on people? When is it okay to right them off and stop trying to show them how to become something better? (Not from a relationship perspective, never that, just to become better as a human)
As a coworker, you cut the useless off let them get fired , however as a person I find that hard to do.
How can you change the way someone else sees themself?