NLP - Neuro Linguistic Programming
You can wiki it. I haven't followed this thread closely, maybe someone was talking about it earlier?
Also, I have to say that when Targo first created this thread, there were a small handful of self-identified ENFPs on the site (I can remember Targo, ArcticAngel, Alcea Rosea, FindTheJake, myself, Gabe posted infrequently - then Lady Jaye and Captain Chick also joined the fray) but since then the site has boomed and there are lots of ENFP identified members.
This has been really eye opening for me because after reading and following a lot more posts from a lot more ENFPs, I realize a few things
1) age skew makes a HUGE difference between ENFPs and POV, I definitely feel like I'm at a different place then someone who is in their late teens or early 20s. I honesty feel like a lot 'ENFP' ness continues to develop until at least your mid-20s. I think it has to do with the development of Fi and supportive functions that protect and draw out Fi into the real world. My Fi was like a raw pulsing sore that never fully scabbed over until my mid-20s. I felt like I was walking through life
with no shield and do you know how terrifying and traumatic that is for an Fi dom?!?!? And on this site I was really shocked to find so many negative stories about histrionic, manipulative, and selfish ENFPs - it sounded so alien to me. But - apparently a lot of bad apples exist. I think it's mostly something folks will grow out of?
2) Te/Ti/Fe make HUGE differences between ENFPs. An ENFP with very high Fe will seem more like an INFP or ENFJ in terms of peacemaking and taking care of others. An ENFP with high Te/Ti will be more confrontational and even argumentative and seem more like an XNTP. And an ENFP with high Ni will just seem kookier...
3) The biggest trait that differentiates ENFPs though IMO though is how much introspection and hard decisions that people have made for themselves. Basically, who has stepped up to the plate to be themselves, and who is still getting ready for that first inning. Every person/type has to do this but especially for ENFPS, we
have to figure out what our core values and Fi is about and what we stand for.
Basically ENFPs must live a highly examined life and take a long, hard, brutal look at ourselves and be totally honest about why we do what we do and why we are who we are. It's only after hitting rock bottom (because the finality of reality is REALLY hard to deal with for any NP, especially idealistic ENFPs) and making a decision to basically live like an adult and not in fantasy that ENFPs start really kicking ass at life and just being more truly humane, effective, and compassionate people.
Of course, it's also an ongoing process and in some ways, never completely 'ends'.
Oh yeah, and confidence plays a HUGE factor (which again, can be tied into Fi, because until you feel secure that your Fi is grounded and safe and you can protect it, you will hide in a corner until it's safe to come out)
Um, yeah, I think that long observation belongs in this thread...