Okay, back to 7w6 after not even 24 hours after this talk with elfboy:
[1:20:52 AM] elfboy: I guess I feel like most of the problems of the heart triad are within themselves rather than something they need anything external to fix
[1:21:25 AM] elfboy: like, you don't actualy need to do anything to have a secure identity
[1:21:35 AM] elfboy: just decide that you love yourself and do what you feel like
[1:21:37 AM] elfboy: it's that simple
[1:21:49 AM] Chandler (◕‿◕✿): i agree
[1:22:02 AM] Chandler (◕‿◕✿): but you know, that's shame for ya
[1:22:17 AM] Chandler (◕‿◕✿): i think being loved is pretty external though'
[1:22:23 AM] Chandler (◕‿◕✿): you need someone to love you
[1:22:29 AM] Chandler (◕‿◕✿): can't just be internal
[1:23:10 AM] elfboy: if the reason is because you don't love yourself and deny your own needs, then yes, it is internal
[1:23:23 AM] Chandler (◕‿◕✿): but i do love myself
[1:23:24 AM] Chandler (◕‿◕✿):
[1:23:28 AM] elfboy: good
[1:23:38 AM] elfboy: in that case, if you're a 2, you're on the healthier end
[1:24:08 AM] Chandler (◕‿◕✿): maybe i do deny my own needs though
[1:24:14 AM] Chandler (◕‿◕✿): although it's purely biological needs
[1:24:22 AM] Chandler (◕‿◕✿): sometimes i just skip meals because i have no one to go with
[1:24:37 AM] elfboy: yeah, denying physical needs is definitely within the realm of So/Sx 7 behavior
And then after reading up on Maitri's (who I didn't know existed until now) description of Social 7 I almost cried because it described my current situation perfectly.