Yeah, I cannot really think of a true 'fight' with anyone in my life who has the NF. We've had heated
disagreements but not real drag-out fights. I think of my friend who is INFJ, and I think the worst exchange we ever had was like:
ME: I think you're being really narrow minded.
HIM: How can you say that to me? That hurts.
ME: OK, I'm sorry, I know you're not narrow minded but you've kinda got tunnel vision right now.
HIM: And YOU DON'T???
ME: I acknowledged your goddamn side already, repeatedly!!
HIM: No you didn't!
ME: Yes I did! If you'd stepped out of your tunnel long enough you might have heard it!
HIM: Ha! That was funny. I'm still mad though.
ME: Ha! I know, it's cool.
Yeah, like, really ferocious and shit.
The real FIGHTS I've had have been with those I know with the SP. We kiss and make up, but it gets FIERY. It's equal on both sides though, both of us telling each other exactly what we think, then not speaking to each other for a few hours, then coming back after reflection to work it out. I think these are the healthiest and ultimately CONSTRUCTIVE 'fights' I've ever had.
I am not sure I've ever had a 'fight' with the SJs I've known. They just sit there while I express how I feel and take the "I'm a pacifist so I'm not saying anything" position, or "I'm not doing this because it's stupid and I'm above it" position. I would say that has gotten me the nastiest, because invalidating my feelings/thoughts/POV will set me off more than anything I think.