I guess as long as I don't make any true friends, I won't have to worry about that. Thank goodness.
I'm totally uncomfortable with that expectation. It's one thing if I'm asked to help, or I get a hint that they want me to visit... that's fine. But to be expected to take the initiative and OFFER help, and push my presence on them when they might be in such a bad mood that they might not even want company?
That's why a person calls in advance before going over. If you call and they say they don't feel like seeing anyone right now then drop the issue and call again in a few days to see how they are doing. It just takes a few moments, if the person is important to one.
But leaving to them to ask for help, they may really NEED help but feel like they don't want to impose and make their friends feel like they can't say no to a plea for help. It takes a lot more to say no to a request for help than an offer for help.
I am just thing about the real friends I've had in the past, they would have done all this for me and I feel that I would owe them the same, mostly because I care about them and I want them to feel better if I can help. It is an indication of how invested the other person is in the friendship.