1) Anger: Do you have anger and if you do, do you like it?
2) How can it be leveled or kept in a balanced state?
3) Does it fuel your drive or perhaps can you be prisoner to the emotion of anger?
4) Why or how can anger be deadly or counter-productive?
5) How does it get out of control?
6) Do you have good anger management as well the needed deescalating skills in coping with your anger?
7) How do you think your anger was made manifest?
8) If given the circumstances your childhood was different, do you think you’d have less anger?
"When another person is angry, one who remains mindful and calm acts for his own best interest and for the others interest, too." Buddha
“Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around in awareness.†James Thurber
"Choosing not to act on an angry impulse and to feel the pain that lies beneath it is a very courageous thing to do."~ Gary Zukav
1) I am not aware of my anger. I used to think I'm a calm person. For the most part, I am and I have been complimented for my ability to remain calm in most situations. The only time I've really observed myself be angry is when something I've meticulously planned out doesn't happen the way I intended.
I don't particularly enjoy anger. I don't dislike it either.
2) I don't have a temper that goes out of hand. The only thing I need to do is keep my anxiety in check and I am good. Also I can experience anger without having to express it overtly. Eventually I calm down.
3) I can relate to [MENTION=8936]highlander[/MENTION] 's description of anger. That's how it works for me too. I don't really get angry at a person and then seethe in the anger. I can become annoyed by incompetence. Like, waiting in line for something, I can think of ways the system can be improved so that things would run smoother. This doesn't mean I am angry at the person running the place. If I get too annoyed, I might step up and do something so in that way, anger is useful. I have changed several things, mostly about myself in this way. So anger is good in this sense.
I've never been the prisoner of any emotion. I am a highly emotional person but that has never stood in my way. I think it's because of how I view my emotions. I see them as a healty display of my mental state. If it is healthy to cry when one is hurt, why is it unhealthy to become angry in the same situation?
4) Anger can be counter productive if it turns into self loathing. I have experienced this before. It's important not to cross that line, I think.
5) For me personally, the self loathing is true. Also I don't think it would be healty to hold grudges either. I personally don't. I judge an individual on their overall merits and not the one thing that made me angry. However, I know individuals who do and I think it's unhealthy.
6) I do believe my anger is under control. I don't have any coping skills other than distracting myself from the situation.
7) I think my anger is something that has always been there in me.
8) I grew up with an incredibly kind E8 ISTJ mother. I have come to the conclusion that the people who understand anger the best are also the kindest people i.e, the enneagram 8s. She does have a lot of anger in her. If I were raised by a less angry person, I don't suppose I would be any less angrier than I am now.