Curious Those aren't common qualities for an ENFP to have. But I've always figured there are such flavors out there. What do you think explains this variation within you? Are you aware of your Enneagram Instinctual Variant? My guess is that you would be sexual (intimacy) last
Curiosity is always a good quality. I am aware that I can be seen as a bit unusual. Well, we are all different in our own ways. It’s what keeps life interesting.
The sexual orientation I identify with is asexuality, meaning I don’t experience sexual attraction. It is not very well known or common (polls indicate that it is at about 1% of the population). A lot of people do not think it exists, but it’s what I have experienced so, in my mind, it unquestionably exists.
Of course, that just my experience. Among asexuals, there is such a diverse array of people. It is really a spectrum. Many are interested in and do pursue relationships and have sex. My personal experience is just total and complete apathy towards physical intimacy. I am comfortable with the idea of it and conversations about it. But actually having either? My answer is a resounding meh. I am aware that probably seems harsh, which is not how I want to come across, but that is my personal truth.
I think my sexuality ties into the way I feel about relationships.
While this does nott apply to me, I assume negative/traumatic prior experiences regarding sex/relationships/intimacy could cause a person to feel similar to how I do. Or a hormone irregularity in some cases. I am certain these do not apply to me. They could be a reason though that a person who would not be asexual would feel that way. Of course, I sm sure there have been cases of asexuals experiencing these things.
Nothing in specific causes a straight female to be attracted to males (in general). This goes with any other sexual orientation. So I just guess I am naturally the way I am. If it changes someday, then it does. I cannot predict the future nor do I really even want to do so. Sexuality is sometimes mistakingly thought of as a simple concept, but it really is neither simple nor linear
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My Enneagram Instinctual variant is social first, then self-preservation, and then intimacy. As far as type, Ive narrowed it down to a 6w7 or a 7w6 (still unsure which). I am pretty new to the Enneagram, but I think that is accurate.