Lucy_Ricardo
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- Jun 16, 2017
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
Most recent ex was an INFP.
Can safely say that INFPs are somewhere near ENFPs on walls, and nowhere near INTJ/INFJs.
Slightly more secretive than ENFPs, but definitely too fast (to this INTJ's mind) to let their guards down.
I always like an INTJ's perspective because my best friend is an INTJ. An INFP/INTJ relationship is one of my favorite combos.
So in my experience, INFPs are a lot more secretive and cautious than some of the commenters on here make them out to be.
I'm an INFP, and I'm a private person. I read somewhere once that private people have a way of making others think they know them when they really don't. I do this. In my relationships, others often express how close they feel to me before I'm able to reciprocate. This makes dating tough because I'm so guarded--I've been at the receiving end of some "I Love Yous" that I couldn't return, and there are few experiences more hideous than that.
But when I love someone, I love them wholly and completely, and my loyalty is unbreakable. I don't come to love someone quickly or easily because once I do, I don't stop loving.
I have family that has disappointed me time and time again, but I'll always be there for them because I love them. I have friends that sometimes irritate me and who make terrible life choices, but I'll never abandon them because I love them.
Because I love with such intensity, I can't give it away on a whim. It'd be too devastating. I doubt that that's healthy, but it's at least self-aware.
I've never been in love before because of this guardedness. I haven't decided if I regret that.