Kellyrae18
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- Enneagram
- SP3
I have read several books including, “The Complete Enneagramâ€, “Understanding the Enneagramâ€, and “Discovering Your Personality Type.†I also regularly listen to the Typeology podcast and The Art of Growth podcast.
I thought for sure I was a self pres 3w4. However, the more I learn about the 3 and other types I keep second-guessing myself. Here is why….
I am an extremely hard worker, my husband calls me a workaholic, I have a terribly hard time “spending time†with my family because I feel like I could be getting something accomplished. I'm constantly looking up ways to be more productive but often have way too many things going on at once.
This is where it gets confusing… Some of the things I have noticed about myself that I don’t understand are for one, I am an EXTREMELY generous person, I will literally give anyone anything if I am able. There have been countless times that I come across a post on facebook from someone that has lost everything and I will literally raid my house and pack up as much as I can and take it to them, perfect strangers. I also have a very hard time telling anyone no and have a huge conscience. I feel guilty very easily.
Another thing is I care very much about how I am perceived to people. I get embarrassed very easily, and I absolutely HATE being wrong.
I am SUPER independent to the point that when looking for something in a store I refuse to ask for help. I am not even remotely a touchy-feely type of person which drives my husband (who is a 2) crazy. I usually don’t like to talk about my feelings, and always have to have time to process them before I can do anything. I am also very impatient.
I don’t have a lot of friends and am terrible at keeping in touch with people. I get along with people just fine but definitely don’t seek them out. (Unlike my husband who can spend an hour talking to a stranger he meets in line at the gas station)
I am super into personal development and understanding why I am the way I am. I'm always trying to better myself. I was a server for about 10 years then became a manager, I’ve been in sales and about 2 years ago started my own organizing business.
I’m a terrible procrastinator, I’m terrified of appearing “stupidâ€, to the point that I have a hard time calling people at times.
I feel the need to research absolutely everything and have to have all the facts before I can make any kind of decision. Especially when it comes to buying anything. It took me 4 months to decide on which computer to buy.
The only reason I'm not sure about being a 3 is that I don't feel like I work so hard to get people to like me. If anything, its to prove to myself that I can do it. I became a mom at a young age and am absolutely determined to not be another statistic. The other thing is that when I was younger I rebelled constantly. Basically, if I was told that I couldn't do something, that is probably what I was going to do. I didn't like to get in trouble though, but often did.
I’m sure there is more but that’s all I can think of, off the top of my head. It's driving me crazy, I want to work on myself and grow and be a better wife and mother and I feel like I’m just lost. Any help would be much appreciated
I thought for sure I was a self pres 3w4. However, the more I learn about the 3 and other types I keep second-guessing myself. Here is why….
I am an extremely hard worker, my husband calls me a workaholic, I have a terribly hard time “spending time†with my family because I feel like I could be getting something accomplished. I'm constantly looking up ways to be more productive but often have way too many things going on at once.
This is where it gets confusing… Some of the things I have noticed about myself that I don’t understand are for one, I am an EXTREMELY generous person, I will literally give anyone anything if I am able. There have been countless times that I come across a post on facebook from someone that has lost everything and I will literally raid my house and pack up as much as I can and take it to them, perfect strangers. I also have a very hard time telling anyone no and have a huge conscience. I feel guilty very easily.
Another thing is I care very much about how I am perceived to people. I get embarrassed very easily, and I absolutely HATE being wrong.
I am SUPER independent to the point that when looking for something in a store I refuse to ask for help. I am not even remotely a touchy-feely type of person which drives my husband (who is a 2) crazy. I usually don’t like to talk about my feelings, and always have to have time to process them before I can do anything. I am also very impatient.
I don’t have a lot of friends and am terrible at keeping in touch with people. I get along with people just fine but definitely don’t seek them out. (Unlike my husband who can spend an hour talking to a stranger he meets in line at the gas station)
I am super into personal development and understanding why I am the way I am. I'm always trying to better myself. I was a server for about 10 years then became a manager, I’ve been in sales and about 2 years ago started my own organizing business.
I’m a terrible procrastinator, I’m terrified of appearing “stupidâ€, to the point that I have a hard time calling people at times.
I feel the need to research absolutely everything and have to have all the facts before I can make any kind of decision. Especially when it comes to buying anything. It took me 4 months to decide on which computer to buy.
The only reason I'm not sure about being a 3 is that I don't feel like I work so hard to get people to like me. If anything, its to prove to myself that I can do it. I became a mom at a young age and am absolutely determined to not be another statistic. The other thing is that when I was younger I rebelled constantly. Basically, if I was told that I couldn't do something, that is probably what I was going to do. I didn't like to get in trouble though, but often did.
I’m sure there is more but that’s all I can think of, off the top of my head. It's driving me crazy, I want to work on myself and grow and be a better wife and mother and I feel like I’m just lost. Any help would be much appreciated