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Did he take one look at the results or one look at your head?
Sorry, I couldn't help myself...
Sorry, I couldn't help myself...
I tested as an INFP when I was sixteen.... I was a total INFP child... and yet I have spent the last nine months trying to prove to myself and others that I am a succession of other personality types- INTP, INFJ, INTJ, ISFP, ISTP, ENFP.
Why? Why am/was I so adamant against being an INFP?
Possibilities:
1. They can seem so full of themselves sometimes... elitist, condescending, superior, judgmental, etc, or at the least, profoundly self-absorbed. (Pot calling the kettle black? )
2. It seems like such a cliche to be an INFP, especially when you are a writer (which I am) and have thought about being an English teacher, musician, artist. I want to be a contradiction, not one of the mold, which is such an INFP thing, non?
3. I am not spiritual.
4. I don't have a deep-seated desire to help others, although I am constantly rescuing insects, mice, etc.
I know there's more, but I don't feel like expounding at the moment. Besides, I'm curious as to whether other's have had this issue, INFP or not.
Have any of you not wanted to be the type you actually are?
Well, most people will call it stubborness
I did a profiling test (DISC) for my job once, and the guy who administered the test took one look at the results and said I was mule-headed
^ Something I've noticed is that you can choose to see qualities in a negative or positive light. Is it moral courage or stubbornness? Often times, what annoys people about a MBTI type goes hand in hand with their strengths.
^ Something I've noticed is that you can choose to see qualities in a negative or positive light. Is it moral courage or stubbornness? Often times, what annoys people about a MBTI type goes hand in hand with their strengths.
I guess that is why I take offense at the whiny label. I'm not allowed to be whiny even if I wanted to be. And yet, I hear tons of whining all around me. I'm the person to call up when you want to whine and get some support, because I will actually listen to people and not trivialize their feelings. I rarely get that kind of support returned to me though, and if I ask for it or fall for whatever trick they're throwing at me to "open up", then apparently I am self-absorbed.
I guess that is why I take offense at the whiny label. I'm not allowed to be whiny even if I wanted to be. And yet, I hear tons of whining all around me. I'm the person to call up when you want to whine and get some support, because I will actually listen to people and not trivialize their feelings. I rarely get that kind of support returned to me though, and if I ask for it or fall for whatever trick they're throwing at me to "open up", then apparently I am self-absorbed.
Always with a quick witty joke. Pervy.
I once confided in my INFP friend for a shoulder to whine on and he slapped me silly and made me call my mama. That Fi doesn't hold back.
^ That's good to know. Because I was taken aback by it. I've known him for 10 years so I'm sure he doesn't hate me. In fact, he has drunk dialed me many a night and asked me to make out with him. He is a trip.
I don't like the picture that is emerging.
Wait, the drunk dialing thing doesn't work? My world is in shambles.
If it was an ongoing thing where you kept on putting yourself in a situation that was causing you pain, he may have been trying to splash some cold water on ya. When I see people make the same decisions that lead to the same emotional consequences over and over, I do one of two things:
1) I splash some Fi cold water on their face in hopes they snap out of it.
2) I say nothing, and start pushing them out of my life.
Or more frequently, try number one and revert to number two when the person doesn't listen, repeats their mistakes, and still wishes for me to be their listening ear. As is often the case with us NPs, if we are usually blunt with the people we respect, otherwise it's not worth the effort.
What picture is that? Clearly once she drops the ESTP the INFP is going to win her over with one of his perverted comments or romantic drunken calls.