Recently my ISTJ friend has completely annoyed me. I went on a trip with him and another friend, J (fellow ISTP), to New Orleans...and we're all introverted thinkers... So I expected quiet time, but with Mr. ISTJ, it was just painfully quiet (I've been on another long trip with J and it was quiet times but never painfully so). Even when asked direct questions it was difficult to get an answer...especially a normal answer...
So we're at Cafe Du Monde in the French Quarter...and what do you get there? Beignets and maybe some coffee or chocolate milk. What are beignets? Pretty much donuts...and who doesn't like donuts?! I know ISTJ likes donuts altho he never eats them when I offer them to him (and I have no idea why, except that maybe he doesn't eat sweets as part of a diet, but this isn't confirmed information).
So we go to order beignets and he says he doesn't want any.
Me: "C'mon, they're really good!"
Him: "Nah..." *looking away*
Me: "Aw, not even a taste or a bite?"
Him: "I said no." *looking away*
*awkward silence*
Another day at brunch (with a special amazing brunch menu along with the regular menu)... I knew what I wanted 'cause I get the same thing every time I go, so I had been talking about it. I asked J what he wanted, and he'd picked something out...
When asking ISTJ over here...
Me: "Did you find something on the menu you want?"
Him: "Yes." *stares at menu*
Me: "Oh, what are you ordering?"
Him: "Don't worry about it." *looks away*
Me: "Hm. I didn't think that was a weird question."
*awkward quiet time*
I told some of my other friends about the beignet incident who also know the ISTJ (and the ESTP of the bunch is decent friends with him)...they were giving him crap about it and ISTJ *still* wouldn't give an explanation about why he wouldn't taste a beignet.
Do what you like, but if there's no reason for it and I can't rationalize...I'm going to start losing respect for you! Sorry, ISTJ. You're good at work and you have an impeccable work eithc...but you suck at being normal and outwardly rational. Every time I think I'm weird, I think about this guy and remember that there are people who are WAY WEIRDER than I am. After conversations like the ones I mentioned, I never know what to say. I don't like making people do things they obviously don't want to do, so I'll drop the subject. But on that note I just stop trying to talk to them when they lock up and shut down the way he did. Once you say no enough times, I'm gonna give up and stop trying altogether. Fuck persistance when the other party doesn't wanna.