HBIC
Member
- Joined
- Mar 5, 2014
- Messages
- 174
- MBTI Type
- ESTP
- Enneagram
- 8w7
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
I don't really understand what thick skin and thin skin have to do with it. That's more about a comical stereotype: Histrionic Feelers vs. cynical Thinkers. Or whatever.
As for "the real difference," I think you have to look at a few examples of the different ways Feeler and Thinkers analyze things in order to get the drift. Basically, Feelers tend to be attracted to the "human interest" angle of any issue because it highlights the facets that interest them the most: Issues involving achieving harmony between specific parties by empathizing with their needs. Meantime, Thinkers tend to be attracted to the abstract, legal/philosophical angle of any issue because it highlights the facets that interest them the most: Issues involving equity between abstract concepts.
Edited out the examples because they weren't really good, but this extract is great.
Btw where did you get the idea to use the expression "equity" for T? I still think that's not the best word to describe it. Though it's pretty good, but "impersonal objectivity" is more to the point, I think. I used the word "simplicity" but that's only part of it.
Whether "empathy" is all-encompassing enough to define F, I'm not quite sure about that, either.
Yeah, his choice of terms...
T is about materialism, pragmatism, rationalism, (all) objects' utility...
F is about spiritualism, idealism, romanticism, (living) objects' value...
As for the original question... I think T and F are both functions tied directly to an individual's ego whereas N/S are tied to superego and id...
So for someone to have a thick skin in relation to a function, he has to have that function in the introverted direction, that is to say Ti or Fi...
Someone with Fi cannot be (in my theory) hurt by Fe feedback for instance... A Fi function would imply that the individual has a disregard for Fe i.e. social structures and rules... So you cannot hurt someone with something he\she doesn't value... However, he\she would be vulnerable to criticism of whathever he\she holds dear in his\her Fi... (i.e. things of the F domain that he\she cherishes and defines his identity with...same goes for Ti but the things are of the T layer this time...)
The same goes for Ti and Te as well... So a function being externalized means we are susceptible to feedback from that layer... and it hurts if the function is tied to ego (i.e. F or T) and the feedback is negative...
I don't think someone with Se and Ne can get (emotionally\mentally) hurt by negative Se or Ne feedback... But may use such feedback for precautionary means...i.e. to check whether the owner of Se or Ne feedback could pose a threat to him\her...
That is correct.