*****The Feeling Triad (2,3,4):
People in this triad haves issues with their feelings and identity that stem from a shame-based rejection of their own authentic self in favor of a personality they believe will be more acceptable. 2s suppress their needs to maintain a loving self-image and seek out specific responses from others to validate that they are loved. 4s look inwards at their feelings and imagination seeking to find stable sense of self based on how they are unlike or different others. 3s are in the middle and therefore maintain their self-image externally by striving to have qualities they think others want in them, and internally by engaging in inner dialogue and their imagination about the people they want to become.
*Type 2, Ego-Flattery:
Seeking to be worthy of love in other’s eyes, they suppress their own needs in order to take care of others’ needs. Can be empathetic, altruistic, compassionate, giving, loving, highly generous, selfless, giving unconditional love to self and others . Can deteriorate into “please pleasing”, “martyr-like” behavior, “loving to get love”, guilt-tripping, manipulation, “needing to be needed”, and an inability to recognize or acknowledge their own flaws.
*Type 3, Ego-Vanity:
Equating their value for their achievements rather then for who they are, they seek to excel in whatever they do and set aside their true feelings to adapt to what will give them positive regard from others. Can be outstanding, ambitious, inspiring, “human ideals”, successful, leaders, charming, highly competent, and can use their talents for the benefit of others. Can deteriorate into image-consciousness, “style over substance”, exhibitionism, deceitfulness, narcissism, and “doing whatever it takes” to get ahead.
*Type 4, Ego-Melancholy:
Seeking inwardly for a firm sense of identity and significance, they over identify with their emotional states and imagination and emphasizing their “uniqueness” or difference from other people. Can be sensitive, self-aware, creative, intuitive, compassionate, and emotionally strong. Can deteriorate into self-absorption, moodiness, self-consciousness, being temperamental, internalizing everything to intensify feelings, hypersensitivity, impracticality, melancholy, self-inhibition, depression, and self-destruction.
(taken from the facebook group)