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More talking about ME an ENFP (that rhymes)
You know, your comments (here and on other threads) about why ENFPs seem so 'unENFP' have been very enlightening to me. I've often wondered in social situations or just out and about running errands -- why aren't I making more small talk? And when I see people being really extroverted and chatty and loud or entertaining people or telling their life storie to random sales clerks and waiters I think -- why aren't I doing that? Am I supposed to be doing that? I think I'm supposed to be doing that -- I'm ENFP aren't I???
I thought maybe I was a repressed or non-higher functioning ENFP. I think there is still some vestiges of social conditioning and negative experiences I'm trying to shake off at the same time.
But -- it's nice to know there is a typological explanation as well. And a new theory I hadn't read up on elsewhere. Thanks Nemo!
I also think my ideas of 'extroversion' are very American culture based on classic ESFJ or ESXP archetype. I definitely do a lot of sizing up and observation when I first meet people and am put in new situations and also believe in propriety to a greater extent than my age peers. And it's true, I don't feel my switches being flipped on all the time. At the same time, there are definitely situations where you have to rein in the ENXP-ness or just get looks and people slowly backing away from you -- just like how any type or person has to modify themselves to get along in the social world.
That's why ENPs are usually so ho-hum in ordinary situations: it's hard for Ne to activate.
You know, your comments (here and on other threads) about why ENFPs seem so 'unENFP' have been very enlightening to me. I've often wondered in social situations or just out and about running errands -- why aren't I making more small talk? And when I see people being really extroverted and chatty and loud or entertaining people or telling their life storie to random sales clerks and waiters I think -- why aren't I doing that? Am I supposed to be doing that? I think I'm supposed to be doing that -- I'm ENFP aren't I???
I thought maybe I was a repressed or non-higher functioning ENFP. I think there is still some vestiges of social conditioning and negative experiences I'm trying to shake off at the same time.
But -- it's nice to know there is a typological explanation as well. And a new theory I hadn't read up on elsewhere. Thanks Nemo!
I also think my ideas of 'extroversion' are very American culture based on classic ESFJ or ESXP archetype. I definitely do a lot of sizing up and observation when I first meet people and am put in new situations and also believe in propriety to a greater extent than my age peers. And it's true, I don't feel my switches being flipped on all the time. At the same time, there are definitely situations where you have to rein in the ENXP-ness or just get looks and people slowly backing away from you -- just like how any type or person has to modify themselves to get along in the social world.