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I like thisHere's a question you can ask yourself when making a decision to help someone out: "Am I being selfless, or am I catering to their selfishness?"
Some people will just take if they can.
To answer the original question: I don't think "looking out for yourself" is "selfishness", at least in the normal sense. What you described doesn't strike me as being selfish at all. However, there's a huge difference between 'giving' out of the goodness of your heart (and really wishing they are happy), and simply 'giving in' because you don't know how to say no.