Acknowledgment or attention, unless I feel like I understand a person's intentions, usually just wigs me out or makes me nervous.
The intjs I have interacted with, again, fall towards two classes. Those more like you guys- i think I am up to about five of them-who are oblivious or indifferent and would be disgusted by pursueing it
I am up to three of the other type and several more potentials who seem to need social recognition, not approval, via pedantic recitation of how knowledgable they are. Maybe this is an insecurity issue. Maybe a really overdeveloped TeSe way to try and deal with all the Ss?
However the top group have mastered the gut busting drop dead stare.
They expect and are slightly disappointed by my lack of comprehension, however will spare me the few moments needed to clarify the topic. At which point I flop on my back and ask them to rub my metophorical puppy belly. Everbody loves puppies.
I 'fish' for recognition. I'll usually ask others questions about my performance on a recently finished project to judge whether or not I am a competent person. Or I'll pay close attention to what other's say about it without probbing. If they don't say anything then I assume they weren't impressed which leads me to think I'm stupid. However if I receive many good reviews then I get a little full of myself. I believe it to be an insecurity. I never said I was healthy. But I realise this problem now and I'm trying to fix it.I am up to three of the other type and several more potentials who seem to need social recognition, not approval, via pedantic recitation of how knowledgable they are. Maybe this is an insecurity issue.
I too get very suspicious of others for unexpected praise.A lot of the times I feel that whenever I'm given acknowledgment or attention, there is some sort of ulterior motive.
Yes, they're quite tastey.Everbody loves puppies.
My INTJ gf practically lives in a parallel universe - at least that how I see it. In her own words, she claims to be non-conformist and hates everything that is main stream or pop culture. I don't think she is anti-social, but she does not yearn for social approval or reaffirmation whatsoever.INTJs & social approval
cheers!
For most of my life, social approval was something I wanted but couldn't get.fear it? loathe it? enviously desire it? intimidatingly selective? passionate neutrality?
cheers!