Yeah smothering them gets bad results, very true. Nah I just usually go do something silly and let them stare.
Either they lose attention, or they smile. One way or another, I know where I stand. Initiating a conversation is something I only dare to do once I've gotten a smile though
All that fuss over
getting an INTJ to respond. I think they'll come round when they want to, and if ever. I don't see the point of pressuring them that way.
If I can't decipher the meaning of an INTJ stare (for what it's worth, I think INTJ stares are inscrutable, unblinking, and rather like a cat's in its intense focus. Oh and INTJ eyes appear dead sometimes instead of what would be intense in someone else, as with most other forms of INTJ expression, I think. I heard an INTJ sing and it was dead, too, and a little pained, though relatively pitch accurate. Or that 's just my take on INTJs), I just break eye contact, shrug it off internally, and GET ON WITH WHAT I WAS INITIALLY DOING. The breaking of eye contact kind of comes naturally to me, I don't really think about it.
I'm comfortable not maintaining protracted gazes with people especially if I'm not really conscious of them. It's more likely that their eyes are just comfortable in my direction than that they're looking at me, really.
Once I am paying attention to them though, I tend to hold this INTJ's gaze for quite a bit, and that's unconscious and natural too; I don't realise I've been doing it till some time later.
That's probably an ENFP-INFP difference?