Jaguar
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Funny you mention this. I always think about this.
Most people are assumed to be lying or exaggerating their skills on their resume. So I sometimes wonder if employers expect it. It seems like if you write an honest resume, you don't even get through the door because someone else's read better, even if in all actuality you are better suited for the job.
Lately I have been taking the approach to just say whatever the hell you need to, just to get through the door, then showcase not what you have done but what you are capable of once you get inside.
It is just that if all people are assumed to lie, and you write honestly, wouldn't an employer assume that is also a lie, and by default, underestimate your skills in the margin of error?
So then in order to be a contender you have to play the game, somewhat..
Sorry know that is off topic but I am curious.
I think the statistics show that a large percentage of people exaggerate their credentials on their resumes. However, there is a matter of degree. It's normal to paint oneself in a positive light and I always expect that people will exaggerate some things. This guy I interviewed, as I reflected after the fact, was grossly mis-representing himself which makes me a bit angry because he was wasting my time and the time of others who were interviewing him. He was saying whatever he thought I wanted to hear.
When it comes down to it, I think interviewers should be looking for people who are a fit for the role and the organization. If you get a job that you're not a good fit for then it's not good for either side. The recruiting and interviewing process itself is highly imperfect though. Once you get in, it's all about what you actually do though. People care about what you're capable of but results and relationships are what matters by a fair margin.
This quotation from A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L'Engle makes me think of Ni:
"Well, the fifth dimension's a tesseract. You add that to the other four dimensions and you can travel through space without having to go the long way around. In other words, to put it into Euclid, or old-fashioned plane geometry, a straight line is not the shortest distance between two points."
It's not visible to others, presumably - but I think I am using Ni/Fe when I do the following, which I do quite often - it comes across as diplomacy or tact, I suppose. In the course of a conversation I'm about to make a joke or comment, but then I realise that it touches on an area which is sensitive for the other person or one of the other people in the convo. It's like, in less than a split second I visualize myself making the comment, hurt or embarrassment flashing across the other person's face, embarrassment filling me as I realise that I may have hurt their feelings or put them in an awkward position. So I formulate something else to say which steers away from the danger zone. But it happens so, so fast that the whole course of thoughts that I've just described is over and it kind of goes through my head only as I'm already making the more diplomatic, less potentially hurtful comment.
...Does that sound like Ni/Fe or am I thinking of something else entirely??
Why bother with attempting to locate a function in another? Instead, it is far better to simply enjoy the kaleidoscope of experience that others' personalities bring to your life, without knowing exactly what it is. That is for them to know, and up to them whether to share with you.
I doubt that there are alot of
1.clear signs that the person is skilled in using Ni.
2.signs that are pointing only on Ni.
However if you can spot a number of the following traits you are probably dealing with INJ (in my opinion)
1. The persons view of the concepts "past, present, future" is a little bit blurry.
2. Person is not showing any clear signs of bodylanguage, so instead it looks more like a statue most of the time. But it tends to walk faster than most people.
3. You say "This food tastes like crap" and the person replys with "But it is healthy and that is all that counts".
I'd say being healthy is important because of the efficiency I am getting from the food. I feel better, I am getting better nutrients, and I'm less likely to get sick. The taste is pretty arbitrary.
4. The person can pass next to the three cars that smashed into each other and not notice them.
5. The person is willing to challange the teacher. But not only on factual but also on methodological basis. Arguing that his kind of education system is leading us into economic and cultural collapse in incoming decades.
6. The person likes to end other people's sentences.
7. The person likes to think about things like: genocide, the end of love, political incorrectness , pointlessness of life , ..... etc. However the person talks about these subjects very calmly and analitically.
I always feel like it's hard to truly be honest with people because they would rather focus on current events than these major issues.
8. The person is asking you question that have nothing to do with where you are or what you are doing.
This seems general.
9. The person prefers dark or gray clothing.
10. The person's skill to recognize how a group that is bigger from 50 people should be organized is clearly above average.
11. The person has calculated how much money can he or she earn in its life-time if varoius events/scenarios occur. So no matter what happens person remains calm since he/she belives that it has seen all of it.
12. The person thinks that the "trial and error" approach is bad approach in almost all cases.
13. The person is often seen as scary or mystical by its environment.
14. The person often just says his/her judgement and what should be done about event X.
15. The person likes to redefine things and definitions.
But doesn't everyone based on their experiences, or do you mean Ni goes out of it's way to do so?
16. The person is energized by complexity. (especially if the planning is involved)
Yes, but I imagine depending on whether someone is oriented towards things or people will determine what types of complexity they wish to focus on. I love to learn telling things about people (example what is the nicest thing they have ever done), but I just don't enjoy working with objects enough to be an engineer. I have a friend who is the opposite.
17. The person remains self-confidant or at least mostly self-confidant even if there is no obversable reasons to feel like that.
18. The person likes sarcasm.
I think this is also general
19. The person has a hard time remembering the strict line of 10 body moves and is gererally clumsy.
20. The person really likes to have the "last laught".
So if you see most of these traits pretty often in some person you are probably dealing with Ni-dom or at least Ni-aux. (But ok, this list is probably a little bit Te biased)
But that's the whole point of this website, to dig deeper into functions and try to understand other people and why they do the things they do.
So a completely blank post is a meta-perspective? Cool.
Wait. You can't see that? I can see it.