small.wonder
So she did.
- Joined
- Feb 8, 2013
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- Enneagram
- 4w5
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
This is the third in a series of threads/polls exploring the parental origins of individuals of each instinctual preference.
I've recently had some really interesting and revealing conversations with friends and family around instincts. Specifically, I think I've hit on what made me prioritize Sx above So and Sp in my emotional hierarchy of needs (if you will). My own circumstances involve two Sp/Sx parents, both of which negated my needs for intimacy, in order to maintain their own first preferences of Self Preservation-- because my Sx needs were neglected, I fixated on them and overcompensated for the lack. This continued (and still does in my family) but developed me to be overly intense, direct and hungry for intimacy. Perhaps what's withheld from us growing up, or what we need most is what we place the most value and urgency on.
After creating a thread and poll about Sx-first parental origins, (and finding really interesting results) I wanted to cover So and Sp first as well. As a Sp-first individual, do you feel like you were deprived/wounded in your emotional or physical need for provision or protection growing up? What did that experience look like? Feel free to share your own scenario of how you think your upbringing caused you to prefer Sp, regardless of what that looks like.
I'm also curious about the parental types of Sp-first individuals-- check out the poll to participate. Thanks!
I've recently had some really interesting and revealing conversations with friends and family around instincts. Specifically, I think I've hit on what made me prioritize Sx above So and Sp in my emotional hierarchy of needs (if you will). My own circumstances involve two Sp/Sx parents, both of which negated my needs for intimacy, in order to maintain their own first preferences of Self Preservation-- because my Sx needs were neglected, I fixated on them and overcompensated for the lack. This continued (and still does in my family) but developed me to be overly intense, direct and hungry for intimacy. Perhaps what's withheld from us growing up, or what we need most is what we place the most value and urgency on.
After creating a thread and poll about Sx-first parental origins, (and finding really interesting results) I wanted to cover So and Sp first as well. As a Sp-first individual, do you feel like you were deprived/wounded in your emotional or physical need for provision or protection growing up? What did that experience look like? Feel free to share your own scenario of how you think your upbringing caused you to prefer Sp, regardless of what that looks like.
I'm also curious about the parental types of Sp-first individuals-- check out the poll to participate. Thanks!