Synarch
Once Was
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- Oct 14, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- ENTP
I just realized you said ENXP here... my mother is an ENFP. You have just explained yet another major issue in my life... my mother's constant need to move to a new place! I lived in multiple states growing up, and being a shy INFJ, having to make friends all over again at a new school every 2 years (on average) made my childhood and teenage years really awful.
The idea that happiness comes from within is something I need to really contemplate and pound into my head.
You've got lots of wisdom. I'm going to start calling you YODA.
My mother is ENFP, so I have some understanding. She was almost constantly dissatisfied with some area of her life. Usually for her it was her career or relationships. Not saying she didn't have reasons to be dissatisfied. She clearly did. But, she seemed to attribute a lot of her unhappiness to what was going on around her. On the other hand, this made her very active in trying to build the life she wanted, so I don't know what it all means in the end.
If you call me Yoda, embarrassed I will be. Thank you, though. That's a nice compliment.
Jenocyde mentioned your INFJ girlfriend... I would think she could get to your inner self, so you wouldn't be untouched and unknown. We have skillz.
She knows me very well. It is wonderful to feel accepted and even liked for my weirdness without wanting to change who I am.
only way i can see one as having low self-esteem while being an idealist is when you DON'T WORK towards improving yourself when you know you can and you should. that would give you a low sense of self-worth since you are indulging yourself in a behavior that does not sit well with your sense of self, but is still what you are displaying to the world; and therefore what you are defined by...consequently defined as your 'real' self. 'real' is a relative term.
also, i found that i'm better at coming to terms with depressing situations if i am with people. i can do it by myself but it takes way longer. i need external input and different viewpoints
That's a good point. I feel better when I am making progress on improving myself. I agree with the being with other people. Unfortunately, I became rather uncivilized and got out of the habit of spending time with people. But, I am working on it.