I have a female friend who is an ESFJ. She's very independent, motivated, nurturing, beautiful, feminine, lots of fun, an amazing cook, very energetic, very social. We are exact opposites in personality and in typology, and I think most ESFJs would drive me nuts or totally bore me. However, she has a lot more emotional and intellectual depth than I initially gave her credit for and our friendship is very solid. I've always said I would marry her if I were a man. I'm not sure an ESFJ is really my type, but if I were a man I think I'd be pretty attracted to women like her.