SkyborneVeggies
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Lately I've been questioning the notion that Fi users keep their feelings to themselves, and Fe users need to talk about their feelings. It's said that since Fi is introverted, it is more concerned with internal feelings AND keeps those feelings to itself.
Since Fe is extroverted, it's more concerned with others' feelings AND emotes outwardly.
However, I don't see why whose emotions we understand better has anything to do with whether we need to share our feelings or not. To me it seems like two unrelated characteristics. Actually in my experience, I feel like the opposite has been true. All the Fi users I know (INFP Father, ESFP Sister, ENFP Best Friend) are much more apt to express their feelings because they don't worry that they might burden someone or potentially make them feel awkward.
I think it would be more accurate to say, instead, that when an Fi user tends to keep their emotions to themselves, it's usually for X reason. When they tend to express it, it's usually for Y reason. And the same for Fe users. Rather than say Fi users don't emote & Fe users do.
What do you guys think?
On a more general note, I've noticed that when Fi and Fe users do talk about their feelings, the resulting conversation is very different. When a Fi user expresses their emotions, they're very precise & can describe exactly what they're feeling, & could probably talk about them at length if they wanted to. When a Fe user expresses emotion, it's in a much more generic way & requires another person's input to understand more deeply. The conversation would contain a lot more back and forth than with a Fi user. It's significantly less taxing for an Fe to analyze & discuss someone else's emotions than their own. I've haven't seen an Fi user try to analyze someone else's emotions aloud before that I can remember, but I assume the opposite is true.
Thoughts?
Since Fe is extroverted, it's more concerned with others' feelings AND emotes outwardly.
However, I don't see why whose emotions we understand better has anything to do with whether we need to share our feelings or not. To me it seems like two unrelated characteristics. Actually in my experience, I feel like the opposite has been true. All the Fi users I know (INFP Father, ESFP Sister, ENFP Best Friend) are much more apt to express their feelings because they don't worry that they might burden someone or potentially make them feel awkward.
I think it would be more accurate to say, instead, that when an Fi user tends to keep their emotions to themselves, it's usually for X reason. When they tend to express it, it's usually for Y reason. And the same for Fe users. Rather than say Fi users don't emote & Fe users do.
What do you guys think?
On a more general note, I've noticed that when Fi and Fe users do talk about their feelings, the resulting conversation is very different. When a Fi user expresses their emotions, they're very precise & can describe exactly what they're feeling, & could probably talk about them at length if they wanted to. When a Fe user expresses emotion, it's in a much more generic way & requires another person's input to understand more deeply. The conversation would contain a lot more back and forth than with a Fi user. It's significantly less taxing for an Fe to analyze & discuss someone else's emotions than their own. I've haven't seen an Fi user try to analyze someone else's emotions aloud before that I can remember, but I assume the opposite is true.
Thoughts?