Kiddo
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I simply think that you missed an important point in Jung's descriptions about the difference between Fi and Fe, being that Fi is more intensive than extensive, so an Fi will tend to focus their caring on a select fewer individuals and give a more intensive emotional bond to those few, when they are lucky enough to have someone be accepting of this. Sometimes it is hard to find people who want that kind of intense closeness.
I felt Jung meant "intensive" as to the individual and "extensive" as in to society or the community. Hence why it made sense when my ENFP friend seemed to demonstrate how his feeling was related to his identity or concept of self and whereas my introspection of Fe leads me to see it as related to interdependence or our concept of others.
It just struck me as being off the mark to say that an Fi will put themselves above the people they care about. If you believed that, you would have a hard time understanding any Fi dom you are truly close to in your life. That's all I was saying.
But that isn't at all what I was saying. As I said in that post...
He then argued that his life is about his choices and anyone else's choices are incircumstantial. but he explained that does not negate that he cares about people or the choices they make, only that other's choices are irrelevant to his existence. The most important thing to him is his choices, because he believes they dictate his happiness. From an Fe perspective, that seems somehow cold, but from a Ti perspective, it seems incredibly realistic.
That isn't to say that Fi isn't aware of others, but only that it is aware of others through its awareness of self.
Now undoubtedly, my later post was poorly worded, which was why I asked you to ignore it, and even told you to completely dismiss it. What I was actually saying, and you may still disagree, was...
An Fi dominant person would put their character above nurturing bonds.
and
An Fe dominant person would put nurturing bonds above their character.