Hellomynameis
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- Mar 6, 2018
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Hey guys,
So I recently started talking to an ISFJ. On his profile, he had said he is a humble, down-to-earth and sensitive guy which I found really attractive. He had accounted this to the fact that he had grown up with many sisters. Although, he did boast about his convertible for which I told him that I don’t really care (not particularly materialistic).
While we were messaging, I felt that something was wrong. I scrolled through the messages and I realised he had only been talking about himself other than when he asked about my day. Not even a comment on what I was saying or a question.
He had previously been speaking to a girl (for the first time) which ended after a week because her family didn’t approve of him. So I counted it down to nerves. Nonetheless, I told him straight up that he had been talking about himself a lot. He apologised and said he would improve this. He said that normally he wouldn’t be interested in someone as rude and coarse as me (because of me calling him out), I thought that perhaps the way I had said it might have been rude but... isn’t constantly talking about yourself the rude thing though???
He didn’t. Whenever he asked how my day was going, it was always just “sweet life†(bearing in mind he wasn’t particularly saying interesting things himself.
I tried to spice it up and tell him a story about when I slipped on ice and rolled down backwards on an icy slope, then immediately got snowballed in the face and chased by the same person (to try and hug me). His reply: “lol, I almost slipped today. I guess my shoe has no grip.â€
Who does he think he is??? I just told him a story with literal twists and turns and his response was to ignore and bore?
What do you guys think? My family are saying to ditch him but my browsing history is telling me he’s nervous? Are all ISFJ’s like this? I was expecting a male Pam Beasley... this is no Pam.
So I recently started talking to an ISFJ. On his profile, he had said he is a humble, down-to-earth and sensitive guy which I found really attractive. He had accounted this to the fact that he had grown up with many sisters. Although, he did boast about his convertible for which I told him that I don’t really care (not particularly materialistic).
While we were messaging, I felt that something was wrong. I scrolled through the messages and I realised he had only been talking about himself other than when he asked about my day. Not even a comment on what I was saying or a question.
He had previously been speaking to a girl (for the first time) which ended after a week because her family didn’t approve of him. So I counted it down to nerves. Nonetheless, I told him straight up that he had been talking about himself a lot. He apologised and said he would improve this. He said that normally he wouldn’t be interested in someone as rude and coarse as me (because of me calling him out), I thought that perhaps the way I had said it might have been rude but... isn’t constantly talking about yourself the rude thing though???
He didn’t. Whenever he asked how my day was going, it was always just “sweet life†(bearing in mind he wasn’t particularly saying interesting things himself.
I tried to spice it up and tell him a story about when I slipped on ice and rolled down backwards on an icy slope, then immediately got snowballed in the face and chased by the same person (to try and hug me). His reply: “lol, I almost slipped today. I guess my shoe has no grip.â€
Who does he think he is??? I just told him a story with literal twists and turns and his response was to ignore and bore?
What do you guys think? My family are saying to ditch him but my browsing history is telling me he’s nervous? Are all ISFJ’s like this? I was expecting a male Pam Beasley... this is no Pam.