Mighty Mouse
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I am an ENFP female trying to get to know an INFP male.
Any Suggestions?
Any Suggestions?
I wouldn't go for that personaly. Tends to get ugly. You will find that an INTJ will make complement you in so many ways.
The problem is that they've got no introverted perception function between em.
There's no one to keep relationship bearing.
I certainly think an INFP and ENFP have more dating compatibility that most other pairings for these groups...
So if it makes you both happy, go for it.
But my experience has been that INFPs seem to fit the friend category better for me. While INFJs and INTJs fit the dating category better.
My two best friends in the whole world are INFP. One is male, the other female. But it's like we are so much alike that it'd be like dating myself.
With INTJs and INFJs we the same in some ways and different in others... but the mix is just right. In other words, as a couple the ENFP and INxJ mix covers most of the bases. This benefits us both. But an ENFP/INFP couple would be so much alike that there would be glaring holes in our competency as a couple operating in the world.
For example, it'd be a freakin' miracle if either of us ever got anything done... like ever. Who'd be on time to events. Who'd find the other's cell phone when it was misplaced. Who'd remind the other to lop off some of the options we'd both see.
Hope this makes sense.
Maybe but I always end up resisting the IN.J person trying to boss me around and organise me and control me! They just won't let me be me. They just don't 'get' me enough. My ex-wife is INFP and the organisational side of the marriage was a big mess, which was basically why we split up -- it was all too stressful and we ended up hating each other because of it, but we are very good friends and spend a lot of time together -- it just doesn't work as a working relationship. I think P and P at least have to go together.
Maybe you have to be with an IN.J who has learned tact and knows that controlling people is not OK. Maybe in a relationship the IN.J will be the more dominant one and a woman naturally feels more OK with being the less dominant one. I know that's not PC but it does often seem to be the case.
What about ENFJ?