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"Everything in its place"
- Joined
- Jun 28, 2009
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I know ENFJs have a want to please people, which in turn rewards them with appreciation, but is this a genuine system? I ask this because I think the other side involves plans or goals. With this in mind, couldn't they please people simply for the sake of their goal?
So I think there's a variable that decides this all: whether the ultimate outcome of the goal is intended to help others or themselves.
I feel I've dealt with both sides, but mostly the latter. I have a friend that will "help" you, but in the end it had nothing to do with friendship, but an underlying goal in which I have to "keep my end of the deal" and help out with. I think this also has to do with charisma and trying to uphold it in order to accomplish a goal.
Am I talking about Hitler yet?
So I think there's a variable that decides this all: whether the ultimate outcome of the goal is intended to help others or themselves.
I feel I've dealt with both sides, but mostly the latter. I have a friend that will "help" you, but in the end it had nothing to do with friendship, but an underlying goal in which I have to "keep my end of the deal" and help out with. I think this also has to do with charisma and trying to uphold it in order to accomplish a goal.
Am I talking about Hitler yet?