I don't think this is strictly an intuitive/sensor thing, actually it's probably just a Dreamer vs the world sort of struggle, but after seeing my INTJ interest over the weekend, I came to an epiphany while we were chatting. She was talking about her use of Ni and learning to try and communicate that to others growing up, and finding a language to make it as clear as possible. Further, she mentioned how she tends to take things in, mull over them, then spit them out, only once she's made some conclusions on those thoughts. This instantly gave me my epiphany. When I make statements or talk to people generally, I'm not making statements that have been mulled over, or even half-baked most the time. When I say something, it is usually just a passing idea. Even if the way I expressed it sounds like an opinion or fact, there is still some wavering there, some room for me to retract. The truth is, and I've only just recently realized this, is that I think out loud, through my words, externally. It really allows me to "see" the problem almost physically, in front of me, where I can then manipulate the mentioned thought or idea, and play with it, as I'm talking. This is usually how a personal brainstorming session goes with me.
So what does this little epiphany mean as it relates to the topic of this thread? Well, naturally, how one makes sense of their world, is by default, how one perceives it. Therefore, what people tell me, in my mind, is also said with hesitation and is given room for interpretation. This has gotten me into trouble with me and my INTJ dad growing up, particularly around money. I was really never much of a spender, but I talked about spending, a lot. Mostly, it was just me fantasizing about buying all these things, talking about them, seeing my options in front of me. To my dad though, these statements were ideas I was going to act on. He would then caution me about spending all my money and ensuring that what I buy is something I truly needed or wanted. I didn't buy most the things I talked about, but this particular example parallels many other instances between me and my dad, and some other people of times my words have been mistaken for things that I've given much thought and consideration on, when in reality, I haven't at all.
I apologize I can be so confusing everyone!