My take, from my experience:
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An ISFP is easygoing and can adapt to a variety of traits or types as long as there's caring.
Relationship challenges might stem from the partner appreciating having the ISFP's (a) understanding nature and (b) physical nature focused on them, but underneath, if the partner had thought about it, they really wanted or needed to be with a different kind of person.
It's not going to work well to get into a relationship with an ISFP and then try to change them. They are not, and are not interested in becoming:
-polished in a classic and traditional manner
-an SJ household manager
-a driven, corporate career person
-only infrequently physically affectionate
-wealth-oriented
-prestige-oriented
It's also not going to work well over the long term to get into a relationship with an ISFP because they seem like someone who can be dominated.
To an ISFP, a great relationship would include equality, playfulness, sharing, and caring.
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I think it may take ISFPs a while to develop a good sense of who they are.
thank you! this was a very insightful post and describes some aspects of my relationship with my ex pretty well...
he is an amazing person, really. i've never met anyone kinder, cuddlier, or more imaginative... and probably never will... and he wanted a lasting, monogamous relationship, which i really appreciated.
the problems we had were:
- he didn't want to talk about the past, or the future
- he wasn't very determined, which created problems, as we were trying to get some things going...
- our Fis clashed from time to time, but on the other hand, it was really, really good a lot of the time
- i was sort of "forced" to become the "voice of reason" in our relationship, because the whole just wasn't working and that stressed me out
i have thought and thought about all of this, though... so i have a couple of questions for ISFPs:
do ISFPs usually dislike talking about the future, or making plans and sticking to them? (how should i have brought it up, if i wanted to talk about the future, or is it something ISFPs just don't do... ?)
do ISFPs usually avoid talking during conflict? (we had this problem that i would have liked to talk things through, but he just wanted to feel the feeling and afterwards drop it... and it didn't seem to bother him, as few things did, but it still bothered me...)
sometimes it was hard for me to understand what was going through his mind, because he didn't want to talk.
i don't know... our relationship really lacked structure... and all that Fi drama was wearing me out.