Smilephantomhive
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What is your favorite and least favorite part about being an ESFJ?
What is your favorite and least favorite part about being an ESFJ?
How could a different type go about being a friend to an ESFJ?
I was wondering as ENTPs and ESFJs share the same functions how do you relate to ENTPs?.
What's it like having Fe dom and how does it interact with Si?
What does having Si in the dom or aux position mean to you and how does that show up in your day to day? I feel mine pokes its head briefly here and there but I still have trouble locating it on the daily.
Honestly just be aware that we can be really mushy and affectionate friends. Tell me if I'm going overboard or if it's making you uncomfortable. I'm just trying to show you I care (because I care a lot). I'd need a friend who can return affection (not necessarily physical, like hugs). Like, tell me you value my friendship. Ask me how I'm doing unprompted. That kind of thing is crucial. Doesn't have to be constant--I'm not extremely demanding--but you know, on a regular basis I guess.
That's the best way I can answer the question.
Huh. I haven't really investigated ENTPs too much, so I only really know stuff from descriptions. I have a wonderful imagination. I can think of random metaphors and connections on the spot, and I can be pretty abstract. I've got ideas in the back of my mind. I'm a good improviser; my mind works quickly, so I'm good at public speaking and improv drama.
Come to think of it, I often appear like a stereotypical ENTP and ESFJ hybrid. Like, I'm candid, honest, and tangential, but also really sweet. It's like there are two sides to me. Honestly, I need to introspect a little more on this.
Sorry I really don't have great understanding of ENTPs. I've focused more on familiarizing myself with my own types that I haven't branched out yet.
Whoa, this question is pretty broad. It would take an essay to really explain this in good detail. Having Fe as a dominant function has me really focused on others, in basically any way you can think of. (Enneagram also comes into play here.) Interacting with others is what brings me to life, and it's most natural for me. That's why it's dominant, I guess. A lot of people miss the other aspect of Fe, though, which is emotions. I'm very focused on others, but I'm actually fairly self-aware. Fe needs to express itself, so I'm very interested in music, art, etc. I'm emotionally open and candid. I don't mind being vulnerable with the world; in fact, it's my preferred way of living.
In terms of interacting with Si...I actually think my Fe interacts with my Ne more than with Si. Ne is my relief function, and I wield it as a tool to kick back and have fun, or to ingratiate others. Si is kind of more to itself. It's my "me" function, I guess. To be honest I've been in a Fe-Ne loop recently and have lost touch with Si a bit.
It's internal. The world sees Fe-Ne, which is a spontaneous, zany, caring person...but Si is inside screaming you need structure, you need to plan all this shit, please figure out what the plan is or I will explode. Si organizes my inner world. My brain, though capable of generating any random junk imaginable, is very categorical. I've got my memory bank, my creativity bank, etc. It's hard to describe. Si is the person I am that's not readily visible, or that contradicts who I am to the world even. I'm outwardly really laid-back and adaptable, but Si is inside freaking out and wanting everything to just stay the same. People have said, "Man, you're really a go-with-the-flow girl" which I sort of am, but honestly I'm pretty scared of change.
Si also brings intense sentimentality. I often look around and automatically relate it to some memory or time period in my life (which Ti has helped me categorize). If I'm not careful, I can get stuck in a replay state and keep thinking about stuff that's already happened...good memories that hurt, bad memories that delight...I start listening to all the old music and reliving my past. (Not too much, though, because if I listen to an old song it starts having new connotations, which would ruin a past artifact.) Again, it's hard to explain.
- What does extraversion mean to you?
I have a lot of love for Fe doms, but am honestly kind of afraid to approach them because I've also had multiple experiences, mainly in childhood, where they got a poor impression of me. What are some good ways to build mutual trust with someone like yourself?