The Outsider
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- Joined
- Feb 3, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- intp
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- 5w4
- Instinctual Variant
- sx
I am quite a perfectionist. It is not fun.
Whether it's an ENTP, INFP, INTP, ISFP, (dunno about ENFPs), etc...
The way they spread on cream cheese on begals.
Their artwork or projects.
Or correcting me on a simple grammar mistake.
Everything has to be perfect.
Ti and English papers don't mix. So many horrible memories.
Exactly.
And that's why I am thankful that I'm not as bad as I used to be.
I have learned that there is such a thing as "good enough".
I'm still working on it, but I've made a lot of progress.
For instance, when vacuuming, sometimes I will move all the furniture
and vacuum every nook and cranny,
but other times I allow myself to say, THIS time, I'll just do a general cleaning
in the middle of the floor, because it really needs it.
Even though I don't have time to do it perfectly,
it's still worth doing.
Perfectionism, for me, has permeated every aspect of my thinking,
and it has taken me years to accept "less" of myself.
Because, you're right, perfectionism IS counter-productive.
I have been jealous of people who have no thought or care about perfection.
They just do things, and don't care if it's crooked, or imperfect,
or if they mess up and make mistakes.
But hey! At least they're doing things!
There's got to be a happy medium.
That's what I'm aiming for.
J's are somewhat anal retentive about many things. P's are very anal retentive about few things.