AphroditeGoneAwry
failure to thrive
- Joined
- Feb 20, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- INfj
- Enneagram
- 451
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
I think you are a INFJ in a NiTi loop. I read the entire thread and you seem to lack self-awareness of your Fe.
I am going to go back over the memories i have from childhood and try to remember things I haven't thought much about as well, in order to elucidate whether I used Ni or Ti more as a child. I was quite a bit rambunctious and energetic. Of my own kids, 3 use Je and 2 use Ji. Since my ex is an istp, that could possibly be an argument for me being Je as well.
The test result is likely from your own lack of self-awareness.
I dunno. I am 47 and been a practicing typologist for 7 years now. I am pretty aware. Plus the official mbti tested me out as an intp, and with that you have a debriefing as well, to make sure.
You mentioned your ex was a Ti dom, so that exposure could definitely influence your functions.
But Ti/Se will be so different than Ti/Ni. Indeed, that might have been why he and I clashed so much in solving problems, was because our Ti had such a different flavor.
Add in a difficult childhood (almost guaranteed for Fe doms and auxs) and your functions get screwed up.
Why?
I would recommend focusing on your Se for a bit. It should help you break out of your loop.
I am pretty open to flowing with whatever day I need to have. I do not believe in forcing function growth, but letting them occur as they will. I like to let Se take over for sure. Just not very often. In fact, my fav extraverted function is Fe being used one-on-one. But my fav functions are Ni/Ti/Si. I get kind of cranky when I have to get drug out of my head very much. And I'm always seeking those deep convos. That is why I like Fe one-on-one, because it affords me the opportunity to fuel my Ni/Ti i think.
The problem with arguing with Je doms, imo, is that they seem to be done with the argument or discussion when they feel they're done, whereas I want to go deeper and dissect the argument's points more, but by that point they've usually already lost interest or moved on.
I am not sure I agree with this. It seems very dependent on I/E attitude in the dom/aux position. I can be done if I don't perceive I'm being understood, or it will waste my time to continue. Whereas I can see that Je dom/aux will want to keep trying to drive the point home.
You vibe much more as an INFJ than you do as an INTP. Just my observation though, and far from an educated one.
INFJs can be pretty damn analytical. I can see why the confusion might arise. I've been in similar predicaments since I discovered Jungian Cognitive Function Theory.
I appreciate your opinion, and it matters to me. I think I am more analytical than most infjs though. To the point I'm not an F anymore.
It's like I'm a people-oriented INTP more than a thinking-focused INFJ. Maybe.
I will explore my ways and style as a child...
Thanks, Everyone, for your thoughtful responses!