AutumnReverie
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- May 6, 2009
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That sounds perfect! He keeps mentioning movies that we need to rent and watch together, so another movie night definitely wouldn't be out of the question (I'm assuming). But, would it be bad for me to suggest the same activity twice in a row, since we just did the "rent a movie" thing this weekend? I don't want him to think that I'm a boring person who can't think of new activities to do every week.Personally, I like things very subtle. I'd wait until you're somewhere very private, preferably at home. You can be watching a DVD or something together. Make sure you sit on the same sofa, or on the floor with blankets around you. If he likes you he will try to sit very close, and you can encourage him to do this by, well, not moving away or shifting too much (because he might take that as a sign that you are not comfortable). Cold weather is the perfect excuse for this . Then, when he's right next to you, stay like that for a while, and then you can lean softly on his shoulder. This will be taken as a sign that you're physically comfortable with him. And... well, let him make the next move...
Or maybe I can couple it with something else? Like go do something downtown (like grab dessert or something) then go back to my place afterwards and watch a movie?
Haha, if he's waiting for the 'right' moment to tell me then he's definitely taking his sweet time Or maybe, I'm just impatient
I'm really nervous. I'll do the hand hold thing, but as far as telling him that I like him...I wouldn't even know where to start. Knowing me, it'd probably go something like this:
Me: It's freezing outside. Is the temp. okay in here?
INFJ: Yeah, it's fine. Do you want more popcorn?
Me: Sure
[pause]
Me: So...um, I like you. I just thought I'd throw that out there...
INFJ: Uh huh...wait...what!?
Haha, I don't know how to not be abrupt and blunt about it. How do you go about integrating that into the conversation? Like what subject should I bring up to talk about that would naturally (non-awkwardly) lead to some sort of declaration of feelings? I have no experience with those kind of subjects, since I usually try to avoid talking about my feelings.
I'm suddenly feel a lot of respect for any guy who has ever told me that they liked me. It's definitely a lot harder than it looks .
[Re: the bolded part] That's exactly how he was! Which is why I was taken back at first because usually, when he's with me, he doesn't appear to be as uninhibited/energetic/extraverted.When I'm with other people, especially with a group of people, I feel the need to keep them happy. He might have felt the same way. Since he's the one organizing the get-together, he might have felt it was his responsibility to make sure everyone was having a good time. This often results in INFJs appearing more extraverted (e.g. playful, joking, more energetic) than usual.
Also, he was probably trying to get to know you better and deeper by asking you questions about psychology. This is a very good sign! It means he really wants to understand who you are inside